Chris,
Been there, done that.... I burned the T-shirt!!! :roflmao
Just like straight razors, you need to look back in the past to Jolly Old England if you want a *REAL* saddle for your bike. What you are looking for is a
Brooks Saddle and the link will take you to one of the larger US dealers who handles them. You'll need to follow the links from that page and actually click on the various models to find something that might suit you. I don't think I would recommend
this one even though it might be what you are looking for. It's really rather on the extreme side of comfort, I settled for a
B66 Champion which might be a bit narrow for you... hard to say without knowing your actual sit bone width and the amount of riding you do. By the sounds of your description, I'd suggest you perhaps look at the
B66 Standard. Should you decide to order one from Walbike, do yourself a favor and actually give them a call... a bit of personal service might help in your selection.
A traditional English leather saddle can be very uncomfortable for the first few rides as it needs to break in to *fit* your sit bones, but once that is taken care of you'll find you can ride for hours on end with little issue. It's really about the saddle fitting you. Modern gels, plastics and foams never change, they are shaped the way they come from the factory for life... if they don't fit your *rse when brand new, they'll never fit your *arse period! :D
And while you are at it, why not drool over the traditional waxed cotton saddle bags from
Carradice also available from Walbike.
Additional reading about bicycles and riding them are available at
Rivendell Bicycles and last but not least even though he passed away only a short time ago
Captain Bike himself, Sheldon Brown who will be sorely missed.
Regards
Kaptain "Two Wheels and a comfy butt!" Zero