Thanks for the response guys,
it must indeed be my tomo nagura or diamond plate.
My stones are hard and so are my tomos mostly, my dfiamond plate is 1200, maybe I should try a 600 instead.
I tried to create slurry from a Coticule stone and it created slurry fine without any loose grit sort of speak. The Coticule is noticeably softer than any of my tomos though, so there might lie a solution there.
Has anyone tried shaving off of worked and thinned Coticule slurry on a hard / very fine Jnat?
I wonder of I could use my Coticule slurry stone as some sort of pre-finishing step, results look good under the microscope, I will see how it shaves first.