I don't think we should deny their rights "because it doesn't affect us". Who's to say that it does or does not affect us?

I think the debate stems from what marriage is. There are two facets to marriage- symbolization and taxation. Before there were marriage contracts, joint filing of returns, and health insurance, marriage was symbolic. Whether it was before God, your church, your tribe, it meant something in that arena.

Now we have marriage contracts, and having this affords you certain rights as a legal entity.

At the base of it, I say let 'em have equality. This equality thing cuts both ways- you don't have to let them get married in your church, etc. That's why there are judges.

If that's not good enough, then I say leave it alone at the national level. It's not the federal government's business anyway. Let it be decided on a state by state basis, and no one has to get angry.