Isn't there a difference between "catering" to a minority with a life threatening condition vs. catering to a minority in a situation with a consequence that doesn't involve death?
For instance - I don't think it's up to the government to ban smoking in places where people gather; I would still expect an asthma clinic to not allow smoking. I would not tell the patients that making them figure out how to deal with the smoke teaches them an important life lesson.
I like Ray's point that it should be up to the local district and not a federal issue.
As to bees - obviously that's a different issue.
I would expect a school to not take a kid with a bee allergy on a class trip to a bee farm.