Thread: "This is going to hurt me more than it is you"

Now isn't that a dumb saying? Has anyone been the recipient of that saying before something unpleasant happened?

I mean, how is it going to hurt the pain giver more than the pain recipient?

Anyone care to expound on this?

I'd tell you all about it, but it would hurt me more than it would hurt you and I'm just not into that kind of pain!

Yes, I was the "recipient" , as you put it, for most of my childhood.
My old man was the "pain giver" , as you put it.
As I got to my teen years, it stopped one day. After the giving, I just stood there with no expression, he was breathing hard & rubbing his swinging arm; I guess it did hurt him more than it hurt me.

That was the day the pain stopped & negotiation began.

My mom still apologizes to me for the one time when I was a child she slapped me on the face. Does that count?

Originally Posted by ReardenSteel

My mom still apologizes to me for the one time when I was a child she slapped me on the face. Does that count?

That is exactly the point. I believe it means that some action you are taking for the "greater good" goes against your own belief system which causes you more grief than you are handing out. To make ReardenSteel's point, 43 years ago I slapped my daughter's bottom. She still doesn't remember it, but I have never forgotten it.

Regards - Walt

Proverbs 22:15 says,"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." I'm a firm believer in that precept. When I gave my child a spanking, I didn't say 'this is going to hurt me more than it does you', but I'm sure that it did hurt me more emotionally.