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So, here is my life as it is. My girlfriend of three years is leaving me and I'm heartbroken. She had just left to go to a wedding when she called and told me we were done so now she is coming back to get here stuff. The question is do I shave my head before or after she leaves for good. I'm not a good looking guy and the general word from people I know is a like worse with my head shaved but I like the feel.
I suggest at this time you do whatever it is that makes you feel better, and not worry so much about what other people might think.
I'm very sorry to hear about that, my condolences. I would have to agree with xheartagramgirlx. This is a time where you need to worry about yourself and not anyone else. If it makes you feel better, than shave your head. It doesn't matter what other people think, if it makes you happy than do it.
First, I got divorced about 2.5 years ago, so I know what it's like to have your heart dumped on.
So, that being said, I think that you should do two things. (This is assuming that things are really over, and this isn't a fight that might be worked out)
1. Shave your head whenever the heck you want. Period. Ignore all other reasons for shaving/not shaving and timing.
2. Have all her stuff boxed up in the living room before she get's back. It will be a good cathartic experience.
On a more personal note, let me tell you something that you probably can't accept today, but eventually you will.
Some day soon, maybe a week, maybe 6 months, but soon; you're going to be eating dinner or driving to work and some little thought about the relationship will cross your mind, and you'll suddenly think, "Oh WTF? WhyTF did I even put up with that?"
Shortly after that, you'll realize that this was a good thing. Until then, you'll feel like hell. Don't be afraid of feeling like crap. Just don't let feeling like crap take over your life.
Mate if after three years she CALLS! you to break up she can get stuffed.
No respect
Shave & enjoy.
Morn a little, then go find a girl who loves you for you.
And be a nice guy
+Buckler
p.s. Just spoke to my wife & she agreed and added 'Go shopping with a good chick friend to buy you some nice clothes that make you look good with your shaved head'
;)
I would just say that at the present your really not in your right mind so I wouldn't make any rash decisions about anything. I'd wait for a time and then you can do whatever pleases you.
+1. Decisions made at the spur of the moment and at a particularly intense time are usually not well founded. Take a few days to collect your thoughts. That way you will be in a better frame of mind, and a lot less distracted. Better frame of mind with the blade in your hand would be the way to go. :gl:
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These things are different for everyone, and if you were talking about plastic surgery, a tattoo, quitting your job, moving across the country or taking up free climbing with no training, I'd be right on board with these guys.
Since hair grows back*, I stick to my advice, do whatever you feel like doing, and try not to sweat the small stuff.
In any case, as you can see, there's plenty of people around who have been there and give a crap about how you're doing.
*Hair "usually" grows back. The first time I shaved my head, I discovere that a lot of the hair on my head was just "hanging around" and wouldn't be growing back. So, if your hair is thinning, you may find there's a lot of hair up there that isn't growing anymore, and therefore won't be growing back if you change your mind.
Shave. Bald heads look great and feel great.
My wife didn't like it, which is why I let it grow.
Shave and be you self :gl:
I was dumped via text message once. The phone ain't that bad.Quote:
Originally Posted by Buckler
I went with no. Seeing as your single and don't want to miss any opportunity let your hair stay, as chicks dig hair.
Do as you wish. Enjoy the liberty.
I'm one for doing what makes you feel good, as stated above Hair Grows.... Like beards... not fast enough at times :p
Mourn the loss, learn from it, and move on
All that becomes, all to the best. It's necessary to wait only the good from the future.
Before I met my wife I was dumped. At the time it was a cathartic experience. Then later I learned an interesting fact. Women say they don't like guys with shaved heads. THEY ARE LYING. In three months I saw more action than I had before I got dumped. It was not long after this that I met my wife. She also said she didn't like guys with a shaved head, but she was lying too.
But before the wedding I was forced to grow it back and look respectable.
I vote no for one simple reason. In my opinion, after getting dumped a "few" times before finally getting it right, I believe it's best to not let her know she got to you. If she shows up and finds you've made this relatively major change, she'll have it in her head that you've fallen apart. I think you should wait till the day after she gets her stuff and then do whatever you want. Shave whatever you want. Do whatever you want, after she's gone.
I agree that you should pack up as much of her stuff as possible to make it quick. Also, absolutely positively have a friend there with you. Maybe there will be no animosity at all, but it's best to have a third party there as a witness and an intermediary to make sure no crap happens.
Good luck.
When women say "No" it mine "Yes" no later. Good luck.
What's with all this unanimity? It's wrong! No, don't shave, absolutely not, uh-uh.
So deusseteh? 11 days later- what happened? What was the final verdict?
The love doctor is in!
Move on, a lot of fish in the sea and ladies who are 30+ are desperate!!!!!
Nice (avg.- above avg.) ladies are attracted to bald men for the following reasons:
a) they don't want a guy who will attract too much attention from other ladies.
b) they believe bald guys work harder to treat ladies better because of #1
c) they know you will compliment all of their hair do's.
d) they will like your selection of stylish hats
e) you will promote staying out of the sun more which is better for their skin.
f) Ladies don't like guys who fuss about their hair.
Pabster
g) Bald guys are better in bed.
My advice, avoid the head shaving or any sudden moves to alter your image just yet.
First and foremost, find a girl, any decent looking girl, who likes you or has liked you a lot, use her, build your ego, and enjoy her ego filling words, and umm ways....
Let that run its course, then go and save some cash and treat yourself to a nice barber shop shave (Trumans, Truefitt,AOS,etc...), and hair cut from a professional.
here's a link to one I've used and loved it, unlimited beer or scotchy scotch scotch. http://www.trumans-nyc.com/services_carte.htm
Then go buy yourself your favourite liquor:beer2: or beer, and a nice cigar and watch the following:
Anything with Steve Mcqueen, preferably The Great Escape.
The Outlaw Josey Wales with good ol Clint.
Bridge on the River Kwai with Alec Guiness.
Then when your good and buzzed, enjoy and revel in all that it is to be a man... and tell yourself **** her and invite the girl who kisses your ass over and well you get the idea.
Cheers
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So... at Trumans, you can drink while getting a shave? for $55 that's a steal.
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Originally Posted by VeeDubb65
Except I'd box her stuff and put it on the porch (or in the hall) with a brief, civil note saying in essence "Take your stuff and go"
goshawk
Maybe you need to be more decisive. Girls definitely seem to go for men that make their own minds up. No-one except you can really answer the question.
Ogle, yea def man, do it, wife turned me onto it for a Father's Day gift, great stuff.
Cheers
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