Nancy Boy is great cream, and the name fits your new wardrobe style. However, I find the rosemary and mint outweight the lavender. Great scent, the signature scent.
Taylor's soap has a very pleasant lavender scent, but a good third of the time I struggle to get a good lather out of it. I don't know that others have this problem.
At SMF or B&B, D.R. Harris lavender is said to be great. I only have the almond, which really smells like unadulterated raw almond, and the lather is great, but haven't tried the lavender.
I'd recommend Lothantique Lavender EDT for after the shave. Been using it exclusively for a couple of years and love it. Very natural scent. Probably not easy to find, but my wife got it at a men's cosmetics store in Coral Gables, FL. I haven't otherwise gotten into the whole cologne/EDT obsession thing, other than this week trying and loving the L'Occitane Vetyver, which I may pick up as a second EDT. Not lavender but frankly not too far in that slightly herbal, earthy smell.