At first I hated it too. Or the slower bidding war that takes you beyond your budget. Aarrgh!

After reading advice from members here I started setting how much I'm willing to pay. Afterwards you can look at the bids and see where other's have set their limit. I like waiting and watching till last minute or so and then let it go. Boom it goes beyond my limit sometimes and others I get it for way less than I would have paid. Either way I'm feeling more a winner. Especially when it goes beyond my limit. Some one else paid too much and I feel I did not. I might have to wait till another example pops up but a lot of times the next one is in better condition. Couple times got it in better shape and for less than one I lost.