Thread: dad stuff

my almost 22 yr old daughter moved this morning with the boyfriend in an overstuffed crown vic to austin tx. they should be in cleveland tn late this evening and plan on getting to austin tomorrow.
i'm a complete wreck. this is not like going to college an hour and a half away. this is full-blown new life. he's got a job with national instruments...she's going to be looking...maybe whole foods. she brought her cat and the texts we're getting seem to point out the cat is getting stressed. screw the cat. i'm stressed out of my mind. went to buy some small nuts and bolts, ran into the father of one of her school friends and could barely talk. went to buy some steaks and ran into the woman who has my coffee ready every morning at the donut shop as i walk in the door. could barely speak. at the checkout the supervisor i've chatted with every time i shop for years patted me on the back and told me it will get better. not easy.
and then there's her sister, 24, who can't wait to move her and the boyfriend into the much bigger recently vacated bedroom. she says she'd get out of here if she could...here's the difference between the two. the older one works part time, quit college and has no plans. the younger one graduated in 4 years, making up a semester's worth of credits she lost when transferring, and is ready to have a life.
i'm mourning this transition, but i'm also wildly jealous that at age 63, saddled with no. one's student loans right now, this kind of adventure would be tough for me.

I cant even imagine. My twin boys just turned two last week.. My biggest issue is sharing toys and the knowledge that potty training is coming soon Best of luck.

Don't anybody mention the G word. It may send him into serious shock and awe leaving him unable to move, let alone speak. I have never been a father and this confirms the fact that like everything else, it's not all fun and games. This is just one of those times you have to go through to get back to the enjoyment part of it all. Be proud, she can fly on her own now :<0)

My daughter is 6, and insists that she will be moving into a little yellow house at the end of the garden, that I have yet to build. In some ways it would be lovely if this transpired, but on the other hand she will need space and independance to spread her Wings.
You will feel better, its just a matter of time. Thank you for Sharing your experience with us.
I hope you start to feel better soon, its not an ending, just a new beginning.

My kids are all young adults living and working or going to school a great distance from home. The beginning is tough, it will get a little easier with less stressful worry time and then come the realization that you have your own life and complete freedom!