I can't believe this thread has gone on for so long. There are two answers, both covered above.

1. yes, they are crazy.
2. is she hot?

But seriously, I have come to the conclusion they aren't crazy, we are just very different creatures divided by a common species. We really see the world different than they do, and it work best when they try to see that we are trying to deal with real problems and solve them, and we try to address the emotional side of things even if they don't bear on the issues. But it's an ongoing struggle for both sides to understand the other. Having had two daughters has opened my eyes - the differences between men and women start from the beginning - it's not societal programming.

My one piece of unsolicited advice - if there is a major incompatibility in your relationship, don't drag it out - those get worse not better, and it's harder to break it off the longer you wait. If you just fight like hell but agree on the important things (money sex children) then it's ok.