Thread: A Man's Man

Originally Posted by jockeys

I think the manliest sort of man is the kind of man that doesn't post pleas for psychological validation anonymously on the internet


but seriously. a man's man is someone who knows who he is. really knows. and is ok with it. you'd be amazed how rare that is. a real man's man will constantly self-evaluate, and if he even finds that he doesn't measure up to his own standards, he works hard to change himself. a man's man doesn't give a damn about what other people think of him, because he knows that he is his own harshest judge. a real man's man doesn't bother evaluating others because it isn't his problem.

+1, very proudly +1

First, for taking a jab at me, I salute you

Secondly, your description hits it perfectly. While I wasn't looking for validation initially, your description is essentially how I attempt to live my life. You inadvertently validated my non-request for validation!

Originally Posted by Whatsthe2ndDfor

So, what's manly to you?

Chadd

Intellect
Honesty
Integrity
Self esteem
Determination

Originally Posted by Whatsthe2ndDfor

You inadvertently validated my non-request for validation!

well then, you're recursively welcome

Originally Posted by fccexpert

The term "man's man" is frequently missued and almost always misunderstood. It has nothing to do with how you look it is entirely about how you act.

A true man's man is a male possessed of a full measure of masculine virtues. These are:

Truth
Strength (this means moral and personal strength not physical strength, it is sometimes referred to as courage)
Justice
Patience
Humility
Honesty (or honor)

If you want to be a man's man, cultivate these.

The seven virtues of Bushido:

• Rectitude (義 ,gi^?)
• Courage (勇 ,yuu^?)
• Benevolence (仁 ,jin^?)
• Respect (礼 ,rei^?)
• Honesty (誠 ,makoto or 信 shin^?)
• Honor (誉 ,yo^?)
• Loyalty (忠 ,chuu^?)

Ironically, the ability to wield an incredibly sharp blade doesn't hurt.
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Originally Posted by jockeys

well then, you're recursively welcome

I do think myself quite the cunning linguist.

I quote Don Corleone: " A man can never be a real man, if he doesn't spend time with his children"

Put some cotton in your mouth and say this with a deep and hoarse voice.I find it to be true.


Kristoffer

Originally Posted by Whatsthe2ndDfor

I So, what's manly to you?

Chadd

I've always felt that self confidence was probably the most "manly" thing. Sort of back to the earlier statement that you are who you are what anyone else thinks does not matter.

I shudder to think about some of the decisions in my life and how they would have gone if I had let other peoples opinions of what I should do were followed.

By the way, +1 on the Bushido. One of my hero's is Morihei Ueshiba, he did a pretty fair job of sticking to the code.

Originally Posted by AceBuckeye

By the way, +1 on the Bushido. One of my hero's is Morihei Ueshiba, he did a pretty fair job of sticking to the code.

Sadly, I'm embarassed to admit I don't know who this is. The furthest I've read as far as anyone's teachings would be Inazo Natobe's "Soul of a Samurai," which discusses the samurai culture to help explain Japanese teachings (as well as providing a very great set of quotes and teachings on each of the tenets of Bushido).

I am, however, happy with my tattoo, as it very recently reminded me I've been straying from the path, and need to re-evaluate my motives and focus.

I read those 7 bushido things and immediately said hell yeah rectitude is important! it's a major part of what defines us as being not just men but male. I have always thought that if i lost the rectitude I'd just shoot myself.

then I clicked on the link for definition, wow I was off! but this kind of rectitude is good too.

Red

Originally Posted by Whatsthe2ndDfor

Sadly, I'm embarassed to admit I don't know who this is. The furthest I've read as far as anyone's teachings would be Inazo Natobe's "Soul of a Samurai," which discusses the samurai culture to help explain Japanese teachings (as well as providing a very great set of quotes and teachings on each of the tenets of Bushido).

I am, however, happy with my tattoo, as it very recently reminded me I've been straying from the path, and need to re-evaluate my motives and focus.

From Wiki -

Ueshiba is remembered by his pupils as a master of the martial arts whose studies transcended technical matters to include a moral and philosophical view of the world based around harmony in the face of aggression. The many branches of aikido in existence today virtually all trace their lineage back to him.
Many stories exist about Ueshiba's martial skill. It is said for example that he was able to escape a tight ring of students that surrounded him with swords and attacked simultaneously.Many of these students would later say they had not even seen him go by them. Another story is that he was able to knock someone off their feet with the force of his kiai

Basically he studied the Samurai and principles of Bushido and adapted it to a form of martial art, Aikido, based on non aggression.

I'm being very fast and loose here, it's a whole lot deeper but it's not warranted to go that deep.

But, if you're a fan of Bushido his Biography is Titled Abundant Peace and is an awesome, manly read I might add.