Thread: I think I'd rather be creepy...

I think I'd rather be the creepy guy than feel like this (hear me out here)...

So tonight I was headed to a high school home coming (football) game because my niece made the cheer squad and I was coming out to see her cheer (my family is very supportive like that). As we were getting closer to the school it occurred to me, my sister was a cheerleader when I was in high school and I used to go to all the games to watch her cheer and ogle her friends. I also remember that "tingly" feeling I'd get watching those cute cheerleaders jump around in their cute cheer uniforms.

Then I started to feel a little uneasy as we pulled into the parking lot of the school. I'm walking into a situation where it was OK then, for me to check out those girls, but now I'm 34 and a bit old to be checking out my niece's high school friends in that manner. I started to worry just a bit;

"Am I going to be that creepy older guy that is checking out girls that are WAY too young to even look at (Pavlovian response or not)?"

Talking to myself:
"OK, just focus on supporting your niece and watching the football game, don't let your eyes linger too much on the other girls, lets not turn this into a scene from American Beauty or anything."

So we get there and sit down, the cheerleaders come running out and start cheering as the players take the field. I look around for a moment with a bit of relief...

"Hey I don't feel creepy, I don't really feel anything that could be considered slightly inappropriate. These cheerleaders look like a bunch of little kids to me!"

My moment of relief was gone almost as fast as it came...

These cheerleaders look like a bunch of little kids to me!



Getting older sucks sometimes; can anyone else pin point that moment when you realize your youth was truly gone and you discover you're actually an adult?

Nah. I don't get along much with most grownups, don't like most of them neither.

Wow, was wondering where you were going for a bit, but you said "Hear me out" so I kept reading.

LMFAO!!!! Glad I did.

Being 34 myself I'm in the same boat. Was walking in a mall with my wife a little while back and made the comment about where all these 'little kids' are flocking to the malls. Then it hit me that most of them are most likely early 20's. My wife started laughing at me when I got this shocked look on my face at the realization. Since when is 20 young? When did my perception change?

I've always been attracted to 'older' women. My wife is 4 years older than me. I dated a 25 year old when I was 19. So I guess that's part of my answer, it's been a while. But I never thought I'd look at 20 something as being too young.

If it makes you guys feel any better, I view most people my own age as young. I'm only 20, but there have been a couple of very rough years in there. It really does make everyone else 20 seem childish, and anyone under about 18 seem like a child.

I guess it's all perception.

I'm 33. Just about every one of my girlfriends have been 19 when i've started seeing them, including my wife. (She's 26 now)
Recently, at a friends party a couple of neighbours turned up. They were 19, & i was most distressed to find myself thinking that the girl was just a child! What the hell's happening to me? It was bad enough when it became socially unacceptable for me to eye up schoolgirls.

Working at a high school I very rarely have this problem. The image portrayed of high school girls I see on American teen and young adult dramas is that of a young woman rapidly sprouting into fully sexualised adulthood. Luckily for me the reality is literally a world away. On tv the sixteen year olds look like young adults but the sixteen year olds in my classes look to me like children. I would hope that any teacher who couldn't see the huge gulf between the tv steriotype and reality would quit their job.

As far as I'm concerned "old" will always be 10 years older than I happen to be at any given time..!

But I do know what you mean about seeing young people. My sister is 19 and she's in her second year at uni at the moment and boy do all her friends seem young when I talk to them..!

I remember when I was at uni, I felt so grown up and like I knew it all. But these guys really do seem like kids. Guess that means I did as well!

Its funny how much difference a few years makes. I'm 26 now and when I talk to people in their teens they seem very young, even though they are trying hard to project this air of confidence and knowledge! Its funny, at 18 I was totally blinded by it and now I can see through it in a second.

I still dont think I'm old though! Remember, you can be old, but immaturity is forever!

Originally Posted by Stubear

Its funny, at 18 I was totally blinded by it and now I can see through it in a second.

I wonder what you will think in another 5 or 6 years time about your attitudes today.

Personally, I think every one tends to believe they understand things better as they gain experience. I wonder, though, if the teens have it right and we just fall into societies routine.

Originally Posted by TheBaron

Getting older sucks sometimes; can anyone else pin point that moment when you realize your youth was truly gone and you discover you're actually an adult?

I'd say the first time I truly threw out my back.

On a COMPLETELY UNRELATED note, I'm 31 and teaching college students, and while some do look a bit immature, plenty of others do not.

It doesn't have to be an OR, you actually can be creepy AND old...