Thread: Resistance/Scrutiny/Interference from spouse?

Originally Posted by spazola

How long till you get a pink razor, as a reward for your numerous razor sells?

Charlie

As soon as I figure out how to get rid of Steve, the guy down the street who now lives in a house built of pink coticule for beating me out ten years in a row

I think the problem is many guys have a relationship where they are all too glad to have the wife basically act like his mommy and tell him what he can and can't do. Once that happens the guy is reduced to just a drone. Sorry if that seems harsh and I'm not trying to disrespect anyone out there but that's how I see it.

I've been married 33 years to the same gal and both my wife and I have our own discretionary funds and we can do whatever with it. With everything else its a 50-50 relationship.

As pointed out above, if the financial aspect of it should be observed. My other half does the finances, she is an accountant. For me its more akin to asking if I can afford it.

If it works for that individual couple, who are you to pass judgment on it? Granted you (and I) would never stand for such a relationship dynamic, but that doesn't make it any more or less valid to the percentage of couples that choose to partake in those relationships.

I doubt any of those guys need to be pitied. They're all adults, fully able to choose how their marriages work.

Originally Posted by Psicko

As pointed out above, if the financial aspect of it should be observed. My other half does the finances, she is an accountant. For me its more akin to asking if I can afford it.

Exactly the same for me. My wife handles the money, and she's darn good at it, so when I want to make a major purchase, I ask/tell her.

And so far, my wife has not ONCE said "No." A couple of times she has said, after a long, level look, "Are you sure?"

At which point I say "No, no, it can wait..."

Smooths the rails a bit, knowing when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em.

Originally Posted by JimR

Exactly the same for me. My wife handles the money, and she's darn good at it, so when I want to make a major purchase, I ask/tell her.

And so far, my wife has not ONCE said "No." A couple of times she has said, after a long, level look, "Are you sure?"

At which point I say "No, no, it can wait..."

Smooths the rails a bit, knowing when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em.

Sounds like a wise course of action. One thing I've learned, maybe had to re-learn a few times, is that when she says, "do you think we could ..." I should listen carefully, think it over, and pleasantly respond, with that magic phrase, "yes, I think that is a good idea." I can think of a number of times I have given the wrong answer.

This is one hobby my wife has had no problem with at all and even encourages me:-) If I find a razor that is very attractive she wants to see the picture and actually appreciates them.
I get a Caswell & Massey catalog and while I don't buy much from them she has discovered it and orders ladies products from it. I even got her to try a DE and now she's a convert to those and swipes my mint shave cream from time to time--LOL!

When we married 38 years ago we agreed that one of us would not spend over a certain amount without consulting the other. It has worked well for us all this time. Such an arrangement also allows for a "cooling off" period and discourages large impulse purchases, and makes one consider if the purchase is really worth the discussion, from a timing stand point if no other.
While she questions if any item as mundane as a razor or shaving brush could possibly be worth $300, there have been items she wanted that I've questioned also.
We have shared "doing the books". At one time I was traveling alot and she took over. Later when she was too busy, or just tired of it, I took care of the money. Most of the banking is now on line, and as I have better computer skills I now handle the money. Lots of ways to skin the cat.
She does think I'm a bit nuts for shaving with a straight razor. On the other hand she tells all her friends, so I know there is no hidden resentment.