You need to set the bevel on a 1k or your 4k.
Mark the edge with a sharpie and make x strokes or circles. You need to keep your elbow high to hone the tip properly. Most new honers get a sharp middle and heel but a duller tip due to low elbow.

Stay in the 1k until you can cut your leg hair above skin from heel to tip.
You can set the bevel on a 4k but it takes longer.
Do not go to a 12k stone until you can hone!

Mrsell is on here and he's a wonderful teacher. Email him!