Thread: Keeping the Peace With No Workshop.

I think that is part of the point I was trying to make, my wife encourages me to work in the shop and do things I want to do. Heck, she even goes so far as to join me on ones she might have a little interest in. While I might prefer to shoot skeet the fact that she's interested in shooting at all (this from a woman who has a good reason not to like guns) has me shooting trap league with her. The fact is that we both have a good time and its something we get to do together. This isn't to say that we do everything together but having some common interests makes it far easier when I want to do something she has no interest in.

In most cases I find its better to try the diplomatic approach first and move onto the more aggressive response if needed. Its far more difficult to do it the other way around. Trust me, I've learned this from experience...it's a good thing that I waited until my 30's to marry.

Living with anyone takes the ability to compromise. To do that both people have to be mature enough to recognize that and do it. There is a solution that both parties can live with if they can communicate.

Bob

That would be my point, compromise, but when the man is letting the wife tell him what he's going to do and takes all the room without letting him have the same Priviledge. That's not compromise it's bull. And yes I still say man up. I don't care if you work on cars or arrange flowers. Maybe I work in an extremely man job that makes me a little more straight forward. I,m not new at this marriage thing, 40 years with a very strong willed woman, made more money than me! And has the need to have things her way since she was always in charge, but when it comes to our lives together its share and respect. The minute she would tell me she gets what she wants and I don't, it would be over. So I dont pretend to tell you what to do. I dont even care if your being manipulated and shown disrespect. But marriage is a "sharing" of life, not selfishness or uncaring of your interests. Tc

Originally Posted by BobH

Living with anyone takes the ability to compromise. To do that both people have to be mature enough to recognize that and do it. There is a solution that both parties can live with if they can communicate.

Bob

That is the biggest thing couples "need" to do.....communication.
Rational communication.!!

My wife and I have been together for almost 20 years, never has there been an argument, that was slept on. All is hashed out before lights out. I sleep better that way, especially since there's hundreds of razors on my dresser.

Don't need to wake up finding things any shorter than they already are. [emoji22]

Originally Posted by tcrideshd

That would be my point, compromise, but when the man is letting the wife tell him what he's going to do and takes all the room without letting him have the same Priviledge. That's not compromise it's bull. And yes I still say man up. I don't care if you work on cars or arrange flowers. Maybe I work in an extremely man job that makes me a little more straight forward. I,m not new at this marriage thing, 40 years with a very strong willed woman, made more money than me! And has the need to have things her way since she was always in charge, but when it comes to our lives together its share and respect. The minute she would tell me she gets what she wants and I don't, it would be over. So I dont pretend to tell you what to do. I dont even care if your being manipulated and shown disrespect. But marriage is a "sharing" of life, not selfishness or uncaring of your interests. Tc

Yes, that where it takes two mature people who can communicate, recognize that there is a problem and come to a solution involving compromise. It has nothing to do with who wears or doesn't wear the pants in the family. If you can't get a workable solution then you have a couple of alternatives, accept the status quo or leave. The alternatives to not being able to communicate are not very appealing. Survived one of the alternatives and coming up on 30 years living with someone else who also survived one of the alternatives. Sometimes we learn from mistakes.

Bob

There are a lot of decent options here...So i wont bring new ideas into the problem.
Just wanted to say i know how you feel.
I 've been with my wife for @ 6 years and married for 4+ years.

I also bean restoring and collecting straight razors @ 7 years ago.

At first when we moved in togeter we had a 3 room apartment with a large closed balcony.
I made a table on one end of the balcony with a window.
Then i put a curtain on that end of the balcony and a fan to pull the dust out.

Later after talking to the administrator of the building he was kind enough to let me use a storage space at the last floor versus a small monthly fee....so i mooved my geat there and about once a week i would go work there without bothering the wife.

Just remember "A happy wife means a happy life"...so no matter how frustrted it may be ... try to find a solution to keep both of you happy.

I understand you live in a house...you could try to build yourself a cart/ workbench and roll it t in the yard... drag an extension cord and doo your messy stuff outside....it would be even better.

Thanks for all the suggestions, gents.

Another option for my consideration is a makerspace here in town...
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For $35 a month I get access to all of the equipment in the place. Among the dedicated sections is a metal working/blacksmithing shop! But that would require dedicating set blocks of time aside, spent downtown, likely without my wife (she is incapable of standing/walking for long periods).

And then there is the problem with my schedule. I am not a morning person, and work three twelve hour shifts and clock out around 2am. On my days off, I might sleep in until 4pm. This adds a wrinkle to my predicament. By the time I get moving around, a lot of places have closed for the day. Personally, I'm more active in the middle of the night anyway.

Gonna bug SWMBO to help sort the craft office tonight or tomorrow .

Well, good luck!

You will get it sorted. Takes time!

Good luck! Of course cleaning up an extra room around here always seems to take more effort than anyone really wants to muster.

Originally Posted by GreenRipper

Good luck! Of course cleaning up an extra room around here always seems to take more effort than anyone really wants to muster.

Ain't that the truth...Daughter off to college for 3 years and finally got the wife in her room to help me yesterday....Filled the pickup with high school crap. Started to regret not just doing it myself.

I would have gotten 2 pickup loads out.....