Thread: Just Wondering...

Originally Posted by onimaru55

My advice is trust no one but don't be suspicious. Does that make sense ?

Do you mean to assume a neutral standpoint until someone has proved themselves eitherway?

Carl, I think environmental influences will mould you to a greater or lesser degree, just look at the way we behave around different groups of people, family, friends, workmates etc, and on a more microscopic level with individuals within that group.
Now if we spend a lot of time with certain groups or individuals they will definately affect us, a minor example would be language, where I work including strong swear words into conversation is de rigeur, and I spend 12 hours a day, 2 weeks out of 3 with my workmates, I find that the swearing is hard to control outside of work as it is in such common usage at work. I do actively try to control it at work but it isn't easy.
I think you have certainly made some interesting career choices for someone with your apparent emotional make up, but you have survived it up until now.

Originally Posted by RoobtheLoob

I decided when I was 20 years of age (I'm 26 now) that I shouldn't let what I do define me. And I shouldn't work for the bigger house or the nicer car, but I would start living and chasing this idea of being self sufficient and healthy (mentally, physically, spiritually, socially and emotionally). I quit my job with Union Pacific Rail Road in northern California to the dismay and confusion of some of my peers. I'm sure some people saw me as an ill informed youngster with a desire for passion yet no discipline. And in most senses I was, but I knew I was chasing something good.

Now I work full time in Southern California in a job I am more happy about but is by no means an "ideal" situation and I'm a lot closer to that dream. But then again I realize that such a task is not easily achieved but earned in longevity and discipline. I'm married now and my wife and I have the same dream, a simple life not being subjected to what culture tells us but by what makes our hearts whole. And we are constantly pursuing that dream.

Just my experience, life is always full of options and with jobs comes mindsets and ways of thinking (specially in your case). But ultimately it what makes you happy and healthy.

You have found the holy grail at such a young age. Good for you.

Originally Posted by carlmaloschneider

That's just the sort of guy I am, that's just the sort of guy I am...
I'm not saying I'd LIKE to be eaten by a shark, but there are more boring options...

I think I might prefer a less exciting death if I had a choice. Though death by shark would be fairly unlikely as I don't go into the ocean unless it's unavoidable, of course there is a slim possiblity of eating some bad shark meat, but as I rarely eat fish it's pretty unlikely too.

I take myself to work and I don't change when I get there. If I can't be me at work I move on. Yes the people I am around influence my behavior but they do not change who I am. What do I take away from any work situation ? How to adapt to the situation. You may come home with some of that on you but it fades the longer you are away. If not, your to wrapped up in your work.

Originally Posted by edhewitt

Do you mean to assume a neutral standpoint until someone has proved themselves eitherway?

No , I mean try to have enough knowledge or listen to your gut feeling so you don't need to trust or be suspicious. If you 'know' something's a bad idea you don't need to go ahead unless you want the experience.

Originally Posted by onimaru55

My advice is trust no one but don't be suspicious. Does that make sense ?

Yes, I guess it does. Just a sec, what's your motive?

Originally Posted by edhewitt

...I think you have certainly made some interesting career choices for someone with your apparent emotional make up, but you have survived it up until now.

You're saying I'm a sensitive little sooky la la aren't you?

Originally Posted by carlmaloschneider

You're saying I'm a sensitive little sooky la la aren't you?

No mate, either tougher than you think you are, or a masochist or both

Some people have a career while for others its a way of life. Me (even more distant), I have a job. It pays my bills but my mind is elsewhere the moment I leave.....sometimes before I leave. To me, there's much more interesting things in life beyond my job. If you are one of the lucky ones, your job and your passion are the same. For those fortunate few, there is no work. I unfortunately work.