Thread: Unexpected loss

Originally Posted by Chevhead

Sorry for your loss.
I wish people would know there are others out there that are willing to listen and help..

Depression is a horrible thing to go through..



Broke your Duck exactly how? Chipped? Cracked?

Cracked. Knocked it off the counter.

Thanks for the kind words everyone.

I've experienced it 4 times now, and it always leaves unanswered questions. Only the people who succeed in taking their own life know what they were thinking at the time. I believe that they think they have to do it, and won't turn back. Most will not understand unless they were in the victims shoes. In my experience, the consequences of their actions have little or no effect to their decision. Once their mind's made up, it's near impossible to change it. Sadly, by the time others realize there's a problem, it's already too late. I hope I'm never in such a place that it becomes the alternative, as it's sure hard for the loved ones that are left behind. Sorry for anyone who has lost someone this way.

Sorry for your loss. I lost a family member that way and can say that 20 years can go by, 30 years, and there is still a weight of sadness. Problem being that whenever we think of them, the way they went comes to mind.

A friend who lost a loved one that way told me a long time ago that his way of dealing with the loss was Abraham Lincoln's saying, "You can be as happy as you make up your mind to be."

So he chooses to think on the happy times he had with his departed loved one. Taking my friend's advice, I've tried to do the same when thinking of my lost loved one.

This in the 'paper' last night ;

US suicide rate rises sharply, especially among middle-aged whites | Fox News

Depression is the cause, death is the means of escape from the pain. Or so they believe. Lost my brother in '92. It was absolute hell telling my father what had happened.

I'm very sorry for your loss. 14 years ago I was living in St. Louis and hadn't spoken to my best friend for months. For some reason, I thought I should call and check up on him. I got distracted and never called. The next morning I received a call from another friend informing me that my best friend/mentor/brother had killed himself. I've carried that guilt all this time. What people don't realize, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I truly believe that they aren't thinking clearly.