Thread: Anger!?

Originally Posted by jockeys

Or their boss has an eye for the bottom line only.

There is nothing irrational about that fear. In today's corporate setting, being replaced by someone cheaper, younger, and less experienced is a VERY common thing.

Not saying what she did was right, but being afraid of termination in her situation is very sensible. If I'd been in the same shoes I'd have started shopping my resume around just to be safe.

Maybe it's different in other fields, I work in software which is especially cut throat.

I understand, I've been through layoffs. However, just to see an ad in the paper for a similar position doesn't really mean much. It is very irrational to go wipe out YEARS of work because you're pissed about something that may not even be. C'mon, it turned out that the guy was interviewing someone for a different company. The rational thing to do would be to shop around for another job like you said. Now she has no job and possibly jail. Even worse, who's going to hire her now?

Originally Posted by JMS

How many of you shave with a straight razor while angry...It doesn't work well, does it?

Ah, I like that! I'm a teacher, and I do get angry in the classroom sometimes, but I find that anger is more of a hindrance than anything else in that setting. A teacher has to keep cool at all times, period.

Norm

If you want to see how how powerful and damaging anger can be, just watch how a little kid/child reacts in its presence, ---- it is an emotion that needs to be used wisely.
But I still do think it has its place,

Justin

What the woman did was a criminal act plain and simple and I think it just shows the type of person she is. If a jail guard is being fired does he open the doors and let everyone out? If an airtraffic contoller is being fired does he run two aircraft into each other? Does a police officer shoot someone he stops for a ticket?

Mentally unbalanced people do these types of things. They are out of the norm in a given situation. You can be unhappy and fustrated but most people act within certain norms. This woman didn't.

There was just a study released that they were talking about on the news last night... it said that couples who argue with each other, living longer... although I am not sure they want to.

Apparently the couples who held it in died faster and if only one of the spouses held it in, they were also supposed to die faster...

Originally Posted by jaegerhund

Well someone doesn't sabotage a entire business upon threat of being canned without a little anger being involved.

Justin

Originally Posted by JMS

The woman was motivated by sheer resentment and anger!

Wow I thought it was just a misunderstanding that got out of control. I got a bit confused also by the bottling up comment too, because they way I read it (we all interpret things differently) was that she saw the add and did the damage all in the same day, if not immediately. But again I may have skipped over something.

My views on anger it can be a powerful motivator, if you are strong enough to use it that way. I used anger to survive my teenage years and to accomplish my goals and dreams in life. I've got it all out my system now but some I carried for what seems like eternity.

Originally Posted by OLD_SCHOOL

Wow I thought it was just a misunderstanding that got out of control. I got a bit confused also by the bottling up comment too, because they way I read it (we all interpret things differently) was that she saw the add and did the damage all in the same day, if not immediately. But again I may have skipped over something.

My views on anger it can be a powerful motivator, if you are strong enough to use it that way. I used anger to survive my teenage years and to accomplish my goals and dreams in life. I've got it all out my system now but some I carried for what seems like eternity.

I see what you are saying and maybe I didn't read it close enough ----but I do figure some anger is involved, whether she had been bottling it up for a while I don't know.

By the way Mark this thread fits in well with the Forgiving and Forgetting thread that I started a while back.

Justin

Originally Posted by OLD_SCHOOL

Wow I thought it was just a misunderstanding that got out of control. I got a bit confused also by the bottling up comment too, because they way I read it (we all interpret things differently) was that she saw the add and did the damage all in the same day, if not immediately. But again I may have skipped over something.

My views on anger it can be a powerful motivator, if you are strong enough to use it that way. I used anger to survive my teenage years and to accomplish my goals and dreams in life. I've got it all out my system now but some I carried for what seems like eternity.

OLD SCHOOL, to my way of thinking, for someone to go off as she did she would have had to have been bottling up her anger over days, months, or years. The want ad was the tipping point! The anger could have been over being jilted by her lover, or someone next door continually playing their music too loud, and so instead of dealing with these problems, she shoves what was initially just an annoyance ( in the case of the music ) down, over and over until it becomes a torrent of rage that she can barely contain. Now, in comes the want ad...Kaboom!!

Originally Posted by thebigspendur

What the woman did was a criminal act plain and simple and I think it just shows the type of person she is. If a jail guard is being fired does he open the doors and let everyone out? If an airtraffic contoller is being fired does he run two aircraft into each other? Does a police officer shoot someone he stops for a ticket?

Mentally unbalanced people do these types of things. They are out of the norm in a given situation. You can be unhappy and fustrated but most people act within certain norms. This woman didn't.

It is my contention that at least 85% of the people under Psychiatric care would not need this care and, in fact many of our institutions would either be made unnecessary or could scale down considerably if we could learn to deal with stress properly, that is to say with poise and without anger or resentment!
I have noticed that many who have replied to this thread have said that they use anger to their advantage, which means that you require motivation from outside yourself! If this is so, then I wonder who or what is using you and your anger to their advantage? On the other hand if you are moved from within no one can control you, but you will be in perfect control!

And of course she went about it the wrong way.
a) it was traceable.
b) it was not effective.

If you don't care about (a) then at least be effective. Of course, being a secretary she would not have had access to the physical disks or the tapeloader or the backup tapes in the safe or the offsite backup tapes.

The only way to be both untraceable and effective is if you are a sysadmin.
And even then, that fact by itself is going to make you suspect.