Thread: Anger!?

It has always been my belief that anger is not a good thing. At some point in our lives we must learn to overcome anger and deal with each situation from a calm and objective center! I also believe that if you do get angry It is even worse to try and suppress your anger because eventually this happens:
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,325285,00.html
I believe anger is no good, but to pretend its not there and never face it is worse! What do you say?

I think anger has its place as a moving force -- as extra inspiration to get out of a bad situation or jamb ---- but prolonged anger is not a good thing and is a sign of some deeper issues that haven't been dealt with properly. But as an immediate response to a bad situation I think it is useful. I guess I kind of look at it as the same as a nervous fight/flight reponse --- useful but harmful if prolonged.

Justin

P.S. > But I don't mean your anger should be directed at anyone in revenge or anything, just use it as a motivator to move on and get away from the situation.

Maybe its coz I'm half asleep but what does that story have to do with anger?

It's my philosophy that anger is a powerful motivator, and people will use it for good or ill, much like everything else. Anger frequently leads people to do things they might regret later on. Anger also frequently motivates people to reach greater heights than they would is they were calm and rational all the time.

Originally Posted by OLD_SCHOOL

Maybe its coz I'm half asleep but what does that story have to do with anger?

Well someone doesn't sabotage a entire business upon threat of being canned without a little anger being involved.

Justin

Originally Posted by OLD_SCHOOL

Maybe its coz I'm half asleep but what does that story have to do with anger?

The woman was motivated by sheer resentment and anger!

True fight or flight situations aside - I think anger is a fact of life and part of our nature. I think its best to be aware of anger and accept it, but don't let it drive your actions - including your state of mind.

Jordan

Anger can also motivate. It can focus your energy. It can make you forget discomfort and keep you going.
But the key is to stay in control of it.

I am virtually never angry. I've been a contractor for 10 years, and had my share of shitty situations. I was played a couple of times in a manner that really made me angry, but I stayed professional.

If you are dealing with high level managers of different sites of a megacorp, throwing a hissy fit is not going to impress anyone.
Instead keep your cool and pour your anger in a mail to management, telling them politely to eff off, explaining in detail the context of the situation, and that your contractual obligations do not forsee in you getting treated like shit.

If you can control your anger, then it is an asset. If not, then it is a liability.
Of course, blowing a fuse every other day probably means that you have a problem.

Originally Posted by Bruno

Anger can also motivate. It can focus your energy. It can make you forget discomfort and keep you going.
But the key is to stay in control of it.

I am virtually never angry. I've been a contractor for 10 years, and had my share of shitty situations. I was played a couple of times in a manner that really made me angry, but I stayed professional.

If you are dealing with high level managers of different sites of a megacorp, throwing a hissy fit is not going to impress anyone.
Instead keep your cool and pour your anger in a mail to management, telling them politely to eff off, explaining in detail the context of the situation, and that your contractual obligations do not forsee in you getting treated like shit.

If you can control your anger, then it is an asset. If not, then it is a liability.
Of course, blowing a fuse every other day probably means that you have a problem.

I believe anger is linked to fear and a sense of vulnerability, so showing it is a sign a weakness but feeling it is totally natural and shouldn't be bottled up ----- I suppose just find something to beat on (inanimate) in private --- manage it somehow.

I think it depends on the anger. In the workplace, most anger is best left out of it, but some can be helpful. It can show your passion for whatever it is and prove that you take an interest in it. Of course, I don't mean losing your temper- that's bad news.

This woman's fear was irrational and stupid. What seems odd to me is that someone who is comfortable in their job performance shouldn't be worried about losing their job, unless the boss just has it out for them.