Thread: I just had a very profound experience!

Originally Posted by Paddington

However, I could not find anything negative to think about in the present. I’m very happy with my life. However, like most people I do have demons from my past...

First of all, I'm sincerely happy for you that you've had a profound experience about dealing with old demons. I really understand what it's like to have demons your childhood that keep resurfacing. I wish I didn't, but I do.

That being said, your quote up there really gives me pause. There is nothing negative in your life right now. Not a thing. Yet, you're looking for ways to deal with negative things that aren't there. That doesn't seem healthy.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to talk down you or your experience, but I'm trying to point out that there might be more to look at.

I've seen some awful stuff. This isn't the place to discuss it, but trust me, been down hard roads. What I've found, and I hope you'll do some serious thinking about, is that every bad thing in life can be lumped into one of three categories, and I can sort them pretty darn fast.

a. Stuff that I have plenty of control over. That stuff is simple. You just deal with it. Life is good if everything falls in this category.

b. Stuff I don't have control over, but could if I worked at it. This is stuff like paying off my student loans, getting into a place where I can feel good about getting married again, that sort of stuff. I can't wave a magic wand, but I can think and plan and work hard and make it happen eventually. I like this stuff actually. This is the stuff that makes us strong. Regular old every day adversity that we have to work hard to overcome, but that we CAN overcome.

c. Stuff that you have no control over and never will. This category sucks. I've got some memories in this category. You betcha. I'm guessing from your post that you do too. I feel your pain. Once you recognize that something falls in this category, you've only got two ways to deal with it; let it poison you, or let it go. When I say let it go, I mean COMPLETELY.

Your technique isn't something that would work for me, but if it works for you, then that's fantastic. (I've found my own ways).

The important thing here, as with anything that you do to let these things go, is to make sure you really are letting them go. Getting them out of your heart soul and mind. It's easy to just shift our thoughts and feelings about old demons around, find a lighter place to carry them, without ever letting go of them. Just make sure you don't make that mistake.