I can't really vote in this poll because Validator is my partner and an equal partner at that. Little Man is our charge and we both do whatever we can to help each other help him. What else can a family do?
Say we get out for a night away from the boy for dinner or something, sure I'll treat her with dignity, but she doesn't want too much chivalry so I respect her independent spirit. I encourage it. I am obliged much more by social custom than her impression.
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