Thread: Are you a manly man or a girly man?

I chose the 3rd option as there is a time and a place to say exactly what one has on one's mind to one's spouse, and that time and that place is not anytime and everywhere!

Well, I thought this would be more of a joke thread with the odd serious answer here and there. I am pleasantly surprised with the responses thus far. For the most part they have been rather thoughtful.

Originally Posted by JMS

And if she didn't?

he'd lose his balls.

my lady is reasonable so i get to keep my balls most of the time. i lub her.

my wife and i have a rather odd relationship, in that we don't really act like we're in a relationship most of the time. we're very independent; have different careers, hobbies, friend circles, etc. we only see eachother an hour or two a day, and some days we don't see eachother at all.

as such, when we do have time to communicate, we don't sugarcoat it. just don't have enough time for that. between the two of us, we work and go to school about 120 hours a week, sometimes more. each of us has the responsibility to take care of ourselves first, since the other isn't usually around.

our conversations are blunt bordering on profane because we have both made a commitment to be honest to one another. we don't try to be rude, but sometimes it happens, and both parties give as good as they get. i don't exactly know what is meant by "she'd take your balls" ... i hear it a lot, usually from guys (sissies) that refer to their wife/gf/whatever as SWMBO whatever that means.

my wife and i believe in having seperate lives. we don't tell eachother what to do, we don't ask eachother where we're going to be, hell, we even keep our finances seperate. it's just common sense.

A picture says more than 1000 words:

Originally Posted by BeBerlin

A picture says more than 1000 words:

Excellent!

Jordan

Great poll Mark - I chose number 3 as well.

I speak my mind on important issues with my wife. Plus we joke around a lot. She has a great sense of humour on some things, but on others not so much - she is one of the last of the overtly feminist generation in Australia, so she is easy to tease, but only to a point....and I find that boundary on a regular basis....

Let's just say I am an expert house cleaner and I know how to separate whites from colours. I am also approaching gourmet chef status and now have an encyclopaedic knowledge of the various shades of purple and aubergine. I consider soap scum the bane of modern life.

And, God help me, I now give genuine answers, and a detailed critique and helpful advice, when asked "How do I look in this?"...

James.

Originally Posted by Jimbo

Great poll Mark - I chose number 3 as well.

I speak my mind on important issues with my wife. Plus we joke around a lot. She has a great sense of humour on some things, but on others not so much - she is one of the last of the overtly feminist generation in Australia, so she is easy to tease, but only to a point....and I find that boundary on a regular basis....

Let's just say I am an expert house cleaner and I know how to separate whites from colours. I am also approaching gourmet chef status and now have an encyclopaedic knowledge of the various shades of purple and aubergine. I consider soap scum the bane of modern life.

And, God help me, I now give genuine answers, and a detailed critique and helpful advice, when asked "How do I look in this?"...

James.

My wife is rolling on the ground laughing as I type

I speak my mind to her and she to me. We have done the long distance thing before in our relationship (6.5 years of dating and as much as 3300 miles in that time with a minimum of 250 miles between us). We learned this:

1. There are actually three conversations going on at once between us: what is being said, what is being intended by the previously said, what is being understood by the previously said.
2. She doesn't know how I am feeling unless I tell her and vice versa
3. She doesn't know my intention unless I tell her and vice versa.
4. We don't intend to say hurtful things to one another so when we are hurt, we ask for clarity.

This seems to work for us but it takes two people understanding the process and might not be for everyone. Also, it can be pretty hard to remember if emotions are running high, but with practice we both realize when we are getting off the process we have designed.

With out this understanding, we never would have lasted all that time apart.
-Rob

Whein she says "jump", I ask, "how high"?

When I say "jump" she says, "Go ahead."

On a more serious note, it is most often none of the above. We generally arrive at a conclusion in a reasoned discussion. My wife is a very intelligent woman and I would be a fool to override her without due consideration.