I guess that my point is that 40 and 45 do more damage, have more penetration, and are just too much for me.

I live in an apartment and at least with a 9mm it may go through a wall, but not nearly as far as it would with a 40 or 45. I'd rather have the option of putting a third round downrange when the first 2 did not work.

Always keep searching for that bullet that works.