Thread: Kids and the Internet, the Jessi Slaughter incident

I have to admit, while I think she had it coming, I do feel sorry for the girl. This is what you get when have kids but don't raise them. Or rather, when you raise them with the assumption that they are perfect and can do no wrong.

I found this interview with the mom where she says that she hasn't watched the videos but she doesn't believe her daughter would use the words 'pop a Glock and turn your brain to slush'.[/QUOTE]

Right...

According to the mother

The officers had said there were videos, but Jess denied making them. Then my mother-in-law called and said there were videos. But I haven't watched them. I can't be in the room 24/7. We tried to talk to Jess last night, but she got very upset all over again. I am trying to get her back to normal. It's taken a very emotional toll on her. I don't know if she made these videos or not, but she says she didn't. Right now, I am trying to figure out what's real and what's not. This has been very difficult to deal with.

And about the protective custody:

These kids have to get up at 7:00 AM, have breakfast and do schoolwork. There is no TV for them, and nothing else to do

The horror...

she was our miracle child, because I had cervical cancer and was told I couldn't have children.

Ah ok this is where their attitude is coming from. I know a couple who ran over their son with their car, and ever since they are spoiling him rotten.

I can't be in the same room with her 24/7 and I am trying to explain to her what's going on. It's been very difficult because I don't understand what's going on -- I don't even know what these videos show and I don't want to view them.

Mkaaaay....
Yes, that is a real poser. She wants to learn what is happening, but she doesn't want to learn what is happening. I can see how this would be difficult.

Communicate with your child, try and watch them and try and believe what your child is saying to you. Give your child the benefit of the doubt, because nobody else will. And talk to your child about cyberbullying and about how bad it's going to hurt another person. They don't know or understand the dwindling-down effect of what they've created.

finally some decent advice, but I don't agree with 'believe what your children are saying'. Trust, but verify. My oldest daughter never lies and on the rare occasion she tries, she fails miserably. My youngest otoh... she's a darling, but if she wants she can be cute, laugh or cry convincingly at will, and lie with an honest face.

I agree that you should back your kids and help them face whatever problems they encounter, but don't rule out the possibility that they are not telling you everything.

Wow.................I think we need to go back about 200 yrs. I remember thinkin I was all that at 13 but nothing like this ?But,I dunno...maybe I'm just getting old and can't remember as much. This is our future. So I'm wondering then. In 100yrs........what will 11 yr. olds be like or 5 yr. olds for that matter ? This is scary. Way scary !! And for that matter...what will parent be like ?? I long for a simpler time when people were a little more humble.......or maybe that's a dream too ??? Sad...........

I will have to show this thread to my wife.. and then she will understand why I have a strict filtering & logging policy on my home servers and why I have a keylogger on the computer my daughter uses currently.

Luckily she is not interested in social networking currently, only plays games when online ( only about 2 hours a week ), and prefers spending most of her time outside.

I think the fact that this kid was still online and the comments made by the father are more than enough to prove parental incompetency.

Originally Posted by Troggie

I will have to show this thread to my wife.. and then she will understand why I have a strict filtering & logging policy on my home servers and why I have a keylogger on the computer my daughter uses currently.

A colleague where I work has three daughters from 14 to 21, and he has also locked down the network at home. I'm not sure I'd go that far... it's such a difficult line to tread between exerting control and giving your children space to grow and to build trust with them. I don't think I'd log their keystrokes and then analyse them, in the same way I wouldn't sneak into their room and look through their stuff. But nor would I let them have unfettered and unsupervised access to the internet (our kids know to ask every time they want to boot up then PC -- and if they don't, it gets shut down immediately). But then, my colleague's daughters have turned out to be fine young women, so who's to say what is OTT?

Our boy is 8 and for the first time last week we let him go to the local shops on his own. He took his weekly £2 pocket money with him to buy whatever he wanted and when he came back I saw what he bought and noted that his change didn't match the total he was supposed to have spent. I immediately got suspicious and quizzed him, expecting some lame story. He told me he had seen someone on the street collecting for charity and had given them 20p. I asked him what they said. He told me they said "Thank you, young man."

I resolved to be more trusting in future. And was fit to burst with pride.

Maybe that childish girl got what she ordered but her parents should have made a better job teaching their kid how to behave in general and specially how to deal with the internet.
The kid of that age should still be a child not some stupid bimbo.

I would agree with you sailor.....Just because this is the modern age and all the other kids are getting peirced and tattooed an growing up way too fast,doesn't mean it's right. Kids should be kids and still should be taught manners and morals. I don't remember seeing any manners or morals when I was watching the video. The internet is a useful tool but is also a dangerous place and if not instructed on how to use it properly.......well...we have seen the results eh . Sorry, not tryin to be a forum hog,just sayin that's all.....