I can relate to the job issue. Tomorrow morning I will start my last month of my job. If I want to do the kind of work I've been doing for the past 20 years, I'll have to leave the state. My wife is continuing to have health issues and she too is looking for a job.

I went through a divorce a long time ago. My ex-wife decided she no longer wanted to be an adult and starting dating. Despite this, she didn't want to leave our kids with me when she left because she knew I wanted them. It was easier for her to dump them on strangers. We went through a long drawn out divorce and the judge fell for her entire story. The judge gave her sole physical custody with visitation rights for me, and we had joint legal custody. Despite this, she took the kids and left. The last time I saw them they were 6 and 2. I can honestly say that losing them destroyed me.

Now they are 24 and 20.

How's that for perspective?