Thread: Jealousy & Security in Women

Out of curiosity, what makes your significant other jealous? And, what do you do to make s/he feel secure?

The thought came to mind after an incident last night. I am honing razors, and the wife called me into the living room where she was watching Dancing With the Stars. She said, "Watch this. Your Christmas present came early." And, it was a very, very sexy, suggestive dance. Don't remember the dancer's name. I'm talking steamy hot!

My wife occasionally does similar things signaling that it is OK to look. However, I caught hell for a very long time for telling my wife that an old girlfriend I hadn't seen since high school asked me why we had broken up. (I didn't ask the question! The ex did. And, I figured the ex-girlfriend might tell my wife - they see each other occasionally - about the question, and then it would seem as if I was hiding things. I should have hid things!)

It's usually things that I wouldn't think would have the effect. My man-brain does not comprehend woman-thoughts.

Women make the rules.
They reserve the right to change the rules at any time for any reason.
They are under no obligation to notify us of these changes.
Duh!

Originally Posted by Utopian

Women make the rules.
They reserve the right to change the rules at any time for any reason.
They are under no obligation to notify us of these changes.
Duh!

What he said.
Now, that being said, there is a distinction that is important when it comes to eyeballing women.

If the woman is someone you'd never be able to get (like Jennifer aniston or Kate Beckinsale) or someone you might be able to get but don't know and likely never meet in circumstances that would allow such, it is ok to watch / make remarks.

If it is someone you know (or worse, a friend of her) then it is absolutely positively not done to express any physical interest whatsoever. The reason is that at that point, such interest becomes threatening to the woman, whereas it isn't when you're ogling Kate Beckinsale in black leather.

I believe a wise man once said, "People are strange"

+1 on what Bruno says. My wife has a few female friends that she met through me and little does she know that long before we started dating, I had dated or asked out these girls at some time or another, all whom now are married with children as well. Then on the other hand, maybe she does know and has never said anything about it and that is why she is still friends with them, in her mind she won. As for me regarding the OP question for jealously and security, my wife currently has a little school girl crush on NASCAR driver Jimmie Johnson. It fit's Bruno's first clause. It does not bother me, in fact, I think it's funny that every time I see him he has probably 3-5 days worth of beard growth and I think to myself, "I bet he uses a Fusion to shave with when he does shave."

What the wife does not know, won't hurt YOU.

Originally Posted by holli4pirating

It's usually things that I wouldn't think would have the effect. My man-brain does not comprehend woman-thoughts.

This is exactly how I feel every day.

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