What comes around goes around......Karma????

So me and my gf broke up in late febuary, she was attracted to a married man with three kids and i say fine see ya bye, We had plans for her senior prom and my junior prom which is tomorrow,(they hold them together) dont ask me why.

She called me up last night balling and singing the blues about not havign a date for the prom and that this married guy just wanted to be her friend because he was happily married. So now she is lonly and blah blah blah and she has the nerve to ask me to take her to prom I told her froget it im not going ( i m headign to my own party out over the mountain with a "friend"so my question is. IS this karma at work lol??? I found alot of humor in a girl getting what she had coming. Figured you guys that have ever had this type of issue would enjoy the story.

Just youthful indiscretion on your girlfriends part

Trying to avoid statutory rape on the married dudes part

That's not karma, that's krazy

true, and no the satutory rape shes 19, she was held back 2 years because when she came to america whe she was 5 she dident speak a lick of english so her adoptive family thought it best to hold her back till she could speak some english, shes russian btw

Good call, you played that just right I think.

Seems like she wanted to have her cake and eat it too! Some peoples nerve never ceases to amaze me.

My response if an ex had called me up like that would have been "sucks to be you. Bye now" *click*

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Originally Posted by hoglahoo

That's not karma, that's krazy

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What goes around comes around. It was built into the system like death. Cannot beat either one.

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Originally Posted by Stubear

Good call, you played that just right I think.

Seems like she wanted to have her cake and eat it too! Some peoples nerve never ceases to amaze me.

My response if an ex had called me up like that would have been "sucks to be you. Bye now" *click*

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Cake is for eating. However, if you like the girl, don't do something you'll regret. Prom only comes around once in a lifetime.

Good Luck.

and im pretty sure she is gonna regret this prom, she is still going she said even tho she is alone,. Im sure she will never make the same mistake again. i for one and as sad as this is to say, im happy im not going, id rather be on the mountain in my buddies jeep hittign the grad parties out there and maby meet some chicks, over dancing in a tux but i would have swallowed my pride and went for her but now im free to go so i think that pi**ed her off a bit when i told her what i was doing.

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Originally Posted by Mvcrash

What goes around comes around. It was built into the system like death. Cannot beat either one.



Cake is for eating. However, if you like the girl, don't do something you'll regret. Prom only comes around once in a lifetime.

Good Luck.

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o i did like her at one point but i moved on and until last night i dident ever think about her again. she really shocked me when she called, but im not going to make her happy when she could verry well turn around and leave me again when she eyeballs somebody else she wants. So if she still shows intrest after prom i may slowly start becmign part of her life again. But untill then im gonna enjoy my free time and enjoy being free and wild untill i meet the one that i will settle down with.... but im no where near ready to settle down.

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Originally Posted by Deerhunter1995

I found alot of humor in a girl getting what she had coming.

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I don't. I find this situation is just her making a stupid mistake. Don't get me wrong, I think you absolutely did the right thing. You just gave her a very important lesson in life, and she can hopefully come out of this experience as a much better human being and learn from her mistake. However, is finding pleasure in someone elses misfortunes, however deserved they might be, something good ?

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Originally Posted by Deerhunter1995

she could verry well turn around and leave me again when she eyeballs somebody else she wants. So if she still shows intrest after prom i may slowly start becmign part of her life again. But untill then im gonna enjoy my free time and enjoy being free and wild untill i meet the one that i will settle down with.... but im no where near ready to settle down.

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She has to prove to you that she's learned from her mistake. Until then stay away. I've seen a few people get burned later in life with a familly & kids, and it's absolutely brutal. Like you said, enjoy your free time and make every second count.

Good luck to you !

thats in intrestign view point and i respect that. what i found funny was that in her head she had this grand plan and she dident work out the flaws before she acted on it, not her suffering. with any luck she will learn a lesson and will be a better person afterwards. I think if she still goes tomorrow she will find at least one person to dance with.

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I,
and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.

(Fritz Perls, 1969)

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Originally Posted by Glenn24

I don't. I find this situation is just her making a stupid mistake. Don't get me wrong, I think you absolutely did the right thing. You just gave her a very important lesson in life, and she can hopefully come out of this experience as a much better human being and learn from her mistake. However, is finding pleasure in someone elses misfortunes, however deserved they might be, something good ?

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Classic case of what the Germans call schadenfreude, which a French proverb defines thusly: "There is something in the misfortune of our best friends which does not displease us."

definitaly soemthing i have to remember.^
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Personally I do not see the humor or pleasure in it. When I was 17/18 probably would have made my life (IMO at the time). However 26 or so years later. I feel for the girl a little. SR Prom is a 1 time thing, unlike most other events. Hell even a majority of the population has more Weddings than proms. It will now fall short of her dream.

You write in your post about karma, Ask yourself even if you had no interest in getting back with her long term (which I agree with) if you were to gentleman up, and go to the prom with her recognizing that you are doing it to help her. What does that do for your karma, conversely finding humor in another person loss/failure/sadness/Error (Whatever you want to call it) and sharing on the internet what does that do to the what goes around comes around theory.

We all (me included) like to speak of karma when we see someone that we are not fond of get a swift kick in the taco. But in reality to truly want to live the what goes around comes around We should probably reach down and help pick them up after getting their nuts rattled.

/let chest pounding resume

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Originally Posted by dyimages

/let chest pounding resume

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woohoo! prom shmrom

http://thegorillachef.com/sitebuilde...st-304x194.jpg

well thats tru but in the same token she waited from febuary untill lastnight to try and fix things, which leads me to belive that she is just desprate for a date, if she reconized her mistake and wanted to fix it more than 48 hrs from the event i may have been a bit more willign to go, but im not gonna get my head in a spin worring about the tux,flowers, and all that other stuff when there is only little time left. Like i said if she still shows intrest after the prom than i will consider letting her prover herself to me untill that time im not gonna sweat it.

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Originally Posted by hoglahoo

woohoo! prom shmrom

http://thegorillachef.com/sitebuilde...st-304x194.jpg

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thats a great pic of yourself lol jk

You made the right call. Still, it generally doesn't hurt anything to be kind and at least show sympathy. People make mistakes, and life is long. Life is funny, too - you might be trying to get a bank loan from this girl one day. That sort of thing.

Frankly I would not sweat it. Probably i would have had no interest in getting back with her long term even if she crawled on broken glass begging for forgivness. My point was if your going to talk about Karma and what goes around comes around we all need to look at our own actions and motives at in good times and bad. It is real easy to step up in good times, but takes a real man to step up for others in bad times

then I could ask the question that I sure everyone has thought at least to themself. Where are the odds of getting laid better? Trolling bush parties or going with a known entity......Just saying

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Originally Posted by Deerhunter1995

well thats tru but in the same token she waited from febuary untill lastnight to try and fix things, which leads me to belive that she is just desprate for a date, if she reconized her mistake and wanted to fix it more than 48 hrs from the event i may have been a bit more willign to go, but im not gonna get my head in a spin worring about the tux,flowers, and all that other stuff when there is only little time left. Like i said if she still shows intrest after the prom than i will consider letting her prover herself to me untill that time im not gonna sweat it.

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I think that's the smartest play right there. Don't be mean, but at the same time don't be nice. In most relationships throughout life one person never acts like an Adult, so therefore you have to. Just remember, girls are like buses, another one comes by every 20 min.

well as a matter of fact i just cleaned up and got a bit to eat and my buddy is gonna be here with his jeep in a few min and im heading out to some grad parties to see if i can find some female companionship and have a good time. maby do some mudding out on the hill. talk to yall later.


Deerhunter.

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Originally Posted by dyimages

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then I could ask the question that I sure everyone has thought at least to themself. Where are the odds of getting laid better? Trolling bush parties or going with a known entity......Just saying

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well ive already gotten it from the known entity but even that isnt good enough to be used. im gonna try my luck at the bush party tonight and well take it from there.

It's not Karma, but as they say "the best revenge is living well". Can you tell me the name of the school and her favorite aftershave? ;-)

back from the hill, what a night!!!!! her school is central mountain high school and her fave aftershave is tai winds, lol