Thread: I hate living in the city.

I grew up in Oklahoma (okc and small towns), lived in Dallas and Chicago for 10 years and recently had to come back to Oklahoma for family stuff.

Maybe I've just become a big city guy, but waaaay more important to me than accessibility and variety of things to do...I REALLY miss the variety of perspectives, beliefs, etc...not only does it keep me sharp, but more importantly, you can just go about your business and no one gives a damn. I really hate the small town tendency to pry in everything and everyone's business. I thought I would enjoy the slower pace, but considering I'm not married with kids ...another thing people can't wrap their heads around here, all of them have kids and are married (at least once)...I just feel like a fish out of water here now.

So maybe a small town is the answer for you...it works for a lot of people, but for me I think my delusions of the slower pace being a welcomed change were just a matter of 'the grass is always greener'...or more appropriately on this board YMMV

Originally Posted by ryanjewell

but more importantly, you can just go about your business and no one gives a damn. I really hate the small town tendency to pry in everything and everyone's business.

That is the biggest difference that I see and agree with! ROFLMAO

Tim

There are assholes in the country just as much as there are in the city. The only way to avoid them is to stay in your house and read.

Originally Posted by markdfhr

I'm sorry 96firephoenix, but I just can't let your last post stand without some kind of response.

You can't lump several hundred thousand people into one pot like that. I happen to like Indianapolis. I think people drive here a bit differently than I'm used to in SoCal, like if a lane is going to merge in the next quarter mile or so you better be out of it. That bugs me. I'll also say I've been in many scrapes where traffic has stopped quite suddenly and nothing came of it. In SoCal, there would have been a Life Alert helicopter having to evacuate ten people.

Indianapolis has good neighborhoods and bad ones, and so do the so-called doughnut counties surrounding it. I find that people where I live have a Nunya type attitude and the further south you go in Indiana, the friendlier people seem to become. But to call them all some vile name like you did is uncalled for.

-Mark

You're right, that was unfair. I'm just sick of living in the city. Maybe its just the businesses that are near where I live and the people near where I live... the ones that I interact with on a daily basis. I'm sorry if I've offended you, it was not my intent.

I realize it could be worse.

Originally Posted by ryanjewell

I grew up in Oklahoma (okc and small towns), lived in Dallas and Chicago for 10 years and recently had to come back to Oklahoma for family stuff.

Maybe I've just become a big city guy, but waaaay more important to me than accessibility and variety of things to do...I REALLY miss the variety of perspectives, beliefs, etc...not only does it keep me sharp, but more importantly, you can just go about your business and no one gives a damn. I really hate the small town tendency to pry in everything and everyone's business. I thought I would enjoy the slower pace, but considering I'm not married with kids ...another thing people can't wrap their heads around here, all of them have kids and are married (at least once)...I just feel like a fish out of water here now.

So maybe a small town is the answer for you...it works for a lot of people, but for me I think my delusions of the slower pace being a welcomed change were just a matter of 'the grass is always greener'...or more appropriately on this board YMMV

Very well said. All of it.

You're fine, 96firephoenix. One thing you might want to consider is, if you ever have the chance, consider vacationing where you'd be interested in living. Kind of like using your vacation to reconnoiter someplace promising or appealing to you. It doesn't have to be anyplace exotic or far, but it can be. Sure, YMMV wherever you go, but only you can be the judge of what makes you happy.

Mr phoenix, you're obviously still a young person. When you're 50, 60, 70 and look back, you will say that you could not of even imagined what you would do, where you would go, and what options there were.

At least you are not old in a place you don't want to be in (physically and spiritually), and less able to escape it...

The options are almost unlimited...

I don't like big city's either but what is a big city? I mean there are only 11 million people in the whole country here. But there is not much free space here, you can drive through the whole place in about a hour. Would love to live in a place like Montana.

There are bad apples every where, big or small. The difference is that I decide how I feel and how I react. Beyond that I can decide which culture I live in.

Originally Posted by markdfhr

I'm sorry 96firephoenix, but I just can't let your last post stand without some kind of response.

You can't lump several hundred thousand people into one pot like that. I happen to like Indianapolis. I think people drive here a bit differently than I'm used to in SoCal, like if a lane is going to merge in the next quarter mile or so you better be out of it. That bugs me. I'll also say I've been in many scrapes where traffic has stopped quite suddenly and nothing came of it. In SoCal, there would have been a Life Alert helicopter having to evacuate ten people.

Indianapolis has good neighborhoods and bad ones, and so do the so-called doughnut counties surrounding it. I find that people where I live have a Nunya type attitude and the further south you go in Indiana, the friendlier people seem to become. But to call them all some vile name like you did is uncalled for.

-Mark

I agree with Mark. You just can't lump most of 750,000 people (Uni-Gov Indianapolis) into one pot. I don't even consider Indianapolis a "city" in terms of how people behave, compared to previous places I've lived and worked such as Boston. In fact, I often think of Indy as the "biggest small town in America." I've found most of the people here to be rather friendly, to a fault.

The neighborhood where I live in Indianapolis has its share of crime, but it is not something that keeps me awake at night. Of course, there are areas of Indianapolis that I wouldn't go into alone late at night either, but that can be said of just about any city.

BTW...Mark and I are in the process of resuscitating the SRP group "Hoosier Shavers." You're welcome to join.

Take care.