Thread: Friends

Originally Posted by jfleming9232

I guess we all try to keep an eye out for the thousanth man.

Sorry, I've gotta ask, what does that mean? :-)

Originally Posted by thebigspendur

I think you will find when guys get married and especially have kids the friends kind of get traded in for the family and most women do their best to separate the men from former friends and replace them with their circle of friends. Also over time guys tend to drift apart from their friends because of the way men form relationships with other men as opposed to women who do it very differently.

If you look at single guys, they are usually the ones with a group of close friends and I mean guys who have been single a very long time.

This is just my observation over the years.

It's funny you mention this (and this thread as a whole as it is something I've been thinking a lot about lately). I once had a circle of close friends. We hit the bar together, hung out on the weekend, worked on cars together, went on random road trips all that kind of stuff. I see those guys maybe 2-3 times a year now. We still treat each other like brothers and I know that if I needed their help they'd be there for me in a heartbeat. We rarely call each other but if it comes through the grapevine that one of us is in trouble there will be long phone calls to talk about the problem and reminisce about old times. Up until he moved away for work a couple years ago one of them and I still saw each other once or twice a week as he'd come over in the evening and hang out with me and the kids while my wife was ar work.

I only talk to two people from work work outside of work. One is my secretary (she calls me when someone at work calls her with a problem) and one is another supervisor who I set up with a guy I used to work with and still chat with on Xbox live every so often.

In the winter I still go to the bar a a couple times a month with some of the guys (and ladies) I ski with. We get along well and have fun together but I don't get out much the rest of the year. They're also all single and don't quite understand having to find a babysitter to go out.

Rudyard Kipling's poem, "The Thousandth Man". Possibly the best description of true friendship I've ever read.

"One man in a thousand, Soloman says, will stick more close than a brother"....."but the thousandth man will stand by your side to the gallows' foot....and after"

First and last lines, but the whole thing is a great read.

Originally Posted by bharner

They're also all single and don't quite understand having to find a babysitter to go out.

Nevermind they don't get that first beer cost you 65 bucks lol. $5 for the beer and $60 for the babysitter lol... sigh. ; )

Originally Posted by jfleming9232

Rudyard Killing's poem, "The Thousandth Man". Possibly the best description of true friendship I've ever read.

"One man in a thousand, Soloman says, will stick more close than a brother"....."but the thousandth man will stand by your side to the gallows' foot....and after"

First and last lines, but the whole thing is a great read.

What a wonderful poem! I think though that it should be one in a million. I have many friends but to this level I think I have 5!

Tim

I guess that I’m very blessed as I have two very good friends! My absolute best friend I’ve known since I was 12 years old (I’ll soon be 59) while at home I had a Mom and Dad at Carl’s home I had a Momma McLaren and Poppa Jack!

Ski; what can I say about my friend Ski! He can give you more S**t in 5 minutes than most people can in an hour! We met at work and while at first I was intimidated by his flipping me S**t/one day I called his bluff and that was a turning point in my life!

I can call either of these men out of bed in the middle of the night to ask either to just talk or ask for other help!!!

For example when my son had fled his abusive step fathers home to live with me and his mother wouldn’t voluntarily reverse the divorce settlement as she knew that I didn’t have the money to take her back to court; Carl financed the situation and told me that he would do so no matter what the cost was and he didn’t care if I could pay him back!! My son now has a safe, loving and secure home!

Good friends are hard to find! Once you have them value them and let them know that they are indeed your good friend!

When I was a kid (just few short centuries after thebigspendur invented dirt) an old man told me "Boy, you count your friends on one hand and if you use more than one finger you are fortunate man indeed."

Originally Posted by Wullie

When I was a kid (just few short centuries after thebigspendur invented dirt) an old man told me "Boy, you count your friends on one hand and if you use more than one finger you are fortunate man indeed."

I was forced to change my name from Methuselah. I was being type cast too much.

I have 4 brothers and 2 sons. We are all very close, so I really don't feel the need for friends. I do have 2 old friends that I talk to about once a year though, that if they called me or I called them without hesitation we would be there no matter what. Guess I am pretty fortunate.

My friends are my family. And as far as pub going goes, I would have a drink with any man on this forum. Just to sit and talk about the different experiences and make a new friend. Anyone who shaves with straights can't be all bad, right?