Thread: Meeting with the funeral director tomorrow

Tomorrow is going to be a very difficult day. I am meeting with the funeral director to make arrangements for Ray. Still just wishing I could wake up from this nightmare...

Very sorry for your loss,My mother and I buried two of my brothers, one was 32, one was 36 at the time they died, both in car accidents,The final day was the best day, the beginning of closure,I wish you well,Your brother is gone,You, yours and his need to move on.Think about how fortunate you were to know him,God bless.

I am sorry for your lose and tmrw will be tough. But it will help in its own way.

I hope this does not come off as insensitive but as I know these things can become very expensive. I do work with a couple funeral homes and had many directors tell me that they can always discount stuff but only do when someone asks. So make sure to ask.

My mother turned 80 on June 28th 2012. Back in about March of this year I got a hold of my oldest daughter and told her that her Granny would be 80 in June and that she wouldn’t live forever. I asked her if she would like to co sponsor a surprise birthday party for her since she had a wonderful home and a large fenced back yard. She jumped at the opportunity!

We held a surprise party for her in my daughter’s back yard on the 30th of June. There were 25 of us present!

To make a long story shorter, mom loved the surprise party! She did real well with holding back the tears until she started reading the cards.

Mom died 31 days later!

Enjoy those whom you love. They won’t be here forever!

It is like walking around dazed in a surreal waking nightmare. Take your time, take a deep breath (or 2 or 3) and you'll get through it. And it's not really a nightmare, it's just life. The part of life we hate to acknowledge, and spend most of our lives denying...until it smacks us upside the head and says "Face me!" And we do, and we get through it, a little at a time...

Thank you all for the support and advice. I don't mean to keep posting about my brother but it helps to talk with all of you.

InHonorOfRay --
Please feel free to do so at any time. After all, we are here to help one another.

+1 to what mapleleafalumnus said . post anytime.

Originally Posted by InHonorOfRay

Thank you all for the support and advice. I don't mean to keep posting about my brother but it helps to talk with all of you.

Post/Talk/Vent all you want that's what we're here for! I'm 59 years old and I still get teary eyed talking about losing my mom!

I work as a clerk in a grocery store usually checking people out these days. I knew it would happen and it did. A customer asked; How's your mom? I had to tell her that she had died. I got the usual condolences. Boy was it hard to get through the rest of the day!

Hang in there. It's not easy dealing with death! I started burying my friends when I was 14 years old. We were playing a JV football game and I watched my old childhood friend die there on the field in front of my eyes.

I still struggle! You are not alone!

All of your support has made the difference. It is helping me to help the rest of my family with such a hard loss.