Originally Posted by
Hirlau
Left the house today about 3:45 after the Presidents speech: I knew this would come up on SRP, but I hoped the thread would wait until the victims were put to rest.
My son, 15 years old, listened to the radio, as we drove to a friends house who also has boys of the same age. Both of our homes have firearms.
So many mixed feelings about this type of carnage, I don't know what to write about or say.
I know that a person or kid of sound mind, does not wake up on a beautiful morning, stretch his arms, eat his breakfast the head to the school/mall to kill. There had to be warning signs, indicators for quite some time that this person wasn't running on all cylinders. Obviously no one took the time or knew what to look for. I have noticed, most of my adult life, that people just "walk on by" so to speak. I wish I could say in words what I believe to be a root cause of behavior like this, but I'm truly not educated, my own fault.
I ask my son each day/everyday I pick him up from school, any problems of any kind at school today?, did you have a good day?, what did you eat for lunch?, do you have homework tonight? These for questions are asked everyday, without fail. Does this make me a great parent?, No it does not, but it allows me to head off problems that could get out of hand. People must take the time to get involved.
I took a trip in early summer to my mother's house in Georgia, large acreage for hunting/shooting on her property.
I picked up my nephew from his father, so he could spend the week with my son, both are the same age. My mother wanted to spend some time with both of her grandsons. I had weapons in my vehicle to spend some range time with my son. A Bulgarian AK, shotgun & handguns. My son shots trap on Monday nights with other youths in a County wide program. He has very basic handgun skills. My brother-in-law asked if I could include his son in the shooting lessons at my mothers. I said yes.
The night before, I'm in the livingroom with the family, my nephew (15 years) in on the computer. He is conversing with a man of 25 years , who face is on the screen. The man is on video & you can hear him talking, with my nephew. My nephew just types back his responses, he has no video. Both are members of some type of military video game, where a lot of people can play all at one time, from all over the world. A very graphic realistic game. {We don't have video games at my house, I have never allowed them.} They start talking about "Head Shots", the adult says , "You get a good head shot & the guy will piss his pants as he dies." I stood up and asked my nephew, "WTF did he just say? Who is this guy?" I made him turn the computer off.
When I heard the man say this , my mind flashed back to the summer of 1988 when Freddy Andrade shot my partner Scotty in the head with a 25 cal. as Scotty chased him across an open yard. Scotty's head swelled to the size of a basketball & he wet himself as he died. I canceled the firearm training that following day & the rest of the summer. I wasn't about to give my nephew shooting skills with an AK or any other weapon. I told my sister about the man on the computer & my concerns about how much time he spent on it with grown men, discussing such topics. I was politly told to go F myself.
I'm not blaming a video game for anything, but this was a case of a parent not engaged in their kids daily activities.
If it would bring back just 1 of those kids lives, you can have all my guns. I don't love them, more than I love the life of an innocent child. I can protect my family with other means. But I do know that a committed mind will find a method to kill & that it is totally imposible to get rid of all firearms.
I don't know what the answer is.