Thread: Drugging Children

I know today's world is different from what most of us grew up in, but I stumbled across this gem:

"The other day, someone at a store in our town read
that a Methamphetamine lab had been found in an old
farmhouse, and he asked me a rhetorical question,
''Why didn't we have a drug problem when you and I
were growing up?''
I replied, I had a drug problem when I was young: I
was drug to church on Sunday morning. I was drug to
church for weddings and funerals.
I was drug to family reunions and community socials no matter the weather.
I was drug by my ears when I was disrespectful to
adults.
I was also drug to the woodshed when I disobeyed my
parents, told a lie, brought home a bad report card,
did not speak with respect, spoke ill of the teacher
or the preacher, or if I didn't put forth my best
effort in everything that was asked of me.
I was drug to the kitchen sink to have my mouth washed out with soap if I uttered a profanity.
I was drug out to pull weeds in mom's garden and
flower beds and pick bales out of dad's fields.
I was drug to the homes of family, friends, and
neighbors to help out some poor soul who had no one to mow the yard, repair the clothesline, or chop some
firewood; and, if my mother had ever known that I took a single dime as a tip for this kindness, she would
have drug me back to the woodshed.
Those drugs are still in my veins and they affect my
behavior in everything I do, say, and think. They are
stronger than cocaine, crack, or heroin; and, if
today's children had this kind of drug problem, this
country of ours would be a better place.
God bless the parents who drugged us."

My parents "drugged" me this way and I drug my children the same way. Just today my little 2 & 1/2 year old boy thanked me for something without me provoking him to say it. Anyone else have a similar "drugged" upbringing?

Yeah, I did. But what it really comes down to is standards. Today's world IS different in that we seem to have fewer standards. We're constantly being told that we can exist without them while we watch the whole place go to hell. Now we accept good intentions as a consolation prize when the absence of standards fails us. But standards by their very nature are not inclusive. And we can't accept anything that is not inclusive in our current feel good society.

Originally Posted by OCDshaver

Yeah, I did. But what it really comes down to is standards. Today's world IS different in that we seem to have fewer standards. We're constantly being told that we can exist without them while we watch the whole place go to hell. Now we accept good intentions as a consolation prize when the absence of standards fails us. But standards by their very nature are not inclusive. And we can't accept anything that is not inclusive in our current feel good society.

So how do we change it? It starts at home. First, parents need to turn off the tv, log out of their FB/twitless accounts, and put down their smart phones that are probably making them dumber. It begins with parents who are engaged in their childs' lives. I am not my children's friend, I am their parent. I will be their friend when they're are older and adults. I will teach my children there are winners and there are losers, and not everyone gets a trophy, there are standards to live by despite what "they" say.

just parenting in general isnt the same , now both parents work and when they come home there time becomes there own time !! it seems every issue on here we talk about that is related to certain things it usually boils down to how a lot of parents are not in there childrens life like our parents used to be .. just like i mentioned in a post a while back , me or my x take our kids to there sports games , practices , ect and we stay there !!! we are usually the only parents at practice and who have stayed at every game !! most of the parents drop the kids off and go .... also i think cause of the divorce rates being so high and growing also leads to kids getting away with more ..

im not saying i didnt do anything i wasnt suppose to or didnt get into trouble when i was growing cause i did , but my parents attended anything i did . knew all my friends , and had a strict curfew ..

im divorced and me and my x are like best friends now and i really think it helps our kids out a lot and we still do things as a family , i certainly dont know all the answers but i know all i can do is be in our kids life as much as i can , teach them in respect and manors , and keep my fingers crossed and hope for the best cause society dont seem to be getting anyt better

I would guess a large part of our view of the world is painted by the media. There's always been bad kids, there's always been bad parents, and so far as I know, there's always been drugs(the bad kind). The thing is, we were'nt always able to log on to the world wide web and read about calamity all over the world. If someone in the next state had a bad kid that beat up little kids, or stole, or took drugs, you weren't likely to ever hear about it. Because you didn't know them, and it wouldn't be in your local newspaper. There's always bad people in every town, but people got by thinking they knew who all the bad ones were. The world got smaller on us, is all.

The world isn't really going to hell I don't think. We're just a lot less likely to trust people these days, because we have access to the worst news of the worst news, from all over the world. And it has a cummulative affect on our perception. If the only people you ever heard about were in your own town, most of us wouldn't think the world was so bad off I think. Then again, I live in a pretty small town.

The world has changed and become less civilized as have people and the way they interact with others.

I remember my dad telling me when he was in grade school back around 1924 or so and a kid wasn't acting properly and was failing the teacher would call the parent into school and usually the parent was an immigrant from Europe and the parent would slap the kid silly in front of the class after the teacher had already done it. Fast forward to when I was in grade school in the 1950s and in the same situation the teacher would just slap the kid across the face and write a note to the parents. Fast forward to this day and age and if the teacher is lucky enough to get any parent to show up there is a good chance the parent will blame the teacher for failure and probably gang up with the kid and beat up the teacher. If a teacher so much as looks at a kid cross eyed these days it's lawsuit time.

it's all about the break down of society.

Originally Posted by regularjoe

I would guess a large part of our view of the world is painted by the media. There's always been bad kids, there's always been bad parents, and so far as I know, there's always been drugs(the bad kind). The thing is, we were'nt always able to log on to the world wide web and read about calamity all over the world. If someone in the next state had a bad kid that beat up little kids, or stole, or took drugs, you weren't likely to ever hear about it. Because you didn't know them, and it wouldn't be in your local newspaper. There's always bad people in every town, but people got by thinking they knew who all the bad ones were. The world got smaller on us, is all.

The world isn't really going to hell I don't think. We're just a lot less likely to trust people these days, because we have access to the worst news of the worst news, from all over the world. And it has a cummulative affect on our perception. If the only people you ever heard about were in your own town, most of us wouldn't think the world was so bad off I think. Then again, I live in a pretty small town.

Some valid points here foe sure. Especially that of the world getting smaller. But there's more than that. The media isn't just pulling back the cover and exposing what is there. The media also takes a more active role in our society and it's influence has changed dramatically over the years. Years ago the good guy always won. Principle and virtue paid off. This week I watched a show on tv where a girl stabbed her mother to death because she felt verbally wronged by her mother. The director made sure to make the girl seem like the victim. What is the message that is delivered here? If you are wronged, you're entitled to do what you like. This is not an exception. It's more of the rule.