Thanks all. I think my problem is that I've been honing too far towards the shank. Sometimes with only the shank off the hone.

Do some people hone that far in? If that's the case, I can imagine the need to take some metal off the stabilizer as was suggested. A simpler fix would be just to make sure you stop before getting to the shoulder which I'll try to do.

I better get back to the videos Thanks for all the replies. I appreciate your time and advice!