David, If your hone isn't scratching the hones you're lapping, I wouldn't worry about it. I'm not sure if lapping hones is sufficient to break these in; maybe an Arkansas would put up enough of a fight to knock down the high spots. Barber hones and Belgians are an abrasive in a relatively soft matrix (compared to diamond, anyway.)

Jordan, I'm afraid you'll have to get used to the blotches. Every one of my DMTs has developed some kind of discoloration. It bugs me, too, but it doesn't appear to hurt anything.

If your carborundum develops a sheen from lapping, you'll need to lap it on a coarse sandpaper, like 80 or 120 grit. That'll restore the rough surface for fast cutting. (My 325 put a mirror finish on two carborundums, and they wouldn't cut after that.)

Josh