Thread: my son is smoking pot

i dont know if you will stop him, just make sure he is open with you, its better you know what he is doing. I would tell him about your experiences and explain why he shouldn't get into harder drugs.

It could be a phase man, most teenagers, especially nowadays like getting high, eating doritos and watching tv. I know I did but I gave it up at the age of 19 to do better things because for me it made me lazy and I wasn't doing anything with my life. At a certain point I think people either grow out of it, or they're smoking doobies for life. The problem with pot is that it's a gateway drug. I was trying other drugs after I started smoking pot but thank God I didn't get hooked on anything.

I would just sit him down and let him know you care about him and love him. On the other hand you could go out and find some street junkies and drive by them with him explaining to him that is what the drugs lead to and ask him if he wants to live his life with a sign that says "Hungry Hungry Hobo" with a bottle of listerine. In any case I think you'll know the right thing to do, after all he is your boy.

Well for me it depends on how old your son is and how much pot he is smoking. On the west coast there is a very high tolerance for people and left handed cigarettes. I too have smoked more than my fair share. The issue in my mind is not the pot, I would have the same concerns about drinking. To me it is all about responsible consumption. My kids are all adults now, but when they were young and in their early teens and probably preteens I would talk to them about responsible consumption and what that means. At this point some of the kids have the odd wobbly pop and some choose not to participate, one of them smokes on occasion but the others do not, but everyone experimented. So to me, and I choose to not consume due to my inability to consume responsibly, it is fairly complex, however I do believe open, and honest communication with our children from a very young age is important. It helps a lot when these issues come up.

Yes keep the lines of communication open and honest. You can tell a kid not to spit in the fan but you know they have to see for themselves.
He has to be the one to control or stop it. You can only guide him through the process.

I'd be looking into his friends and who he's hanging with. That will probably tell you if this is a harmless phase or a prelude into something more serious.

The fact you had a drug problem could mean there is a genetic factor too.

We all smoked dope in the 60s,nobody I hung with went to other drugs,as above is most likly just a phase in his life.
Would rather my kids smoke MJ than cigs and Vodka.

Originally Posted by pixelfixed

We all smoked dope in the 60s,nobody I hung with went to other drugs,as above is most likly just a phase in his life.
Would rather my kids smoke MJ than cigs and Vodka.

True but the pot today is WAY different. They have wax which is like hash on steroids and synthetic marijuana that is killing people and burning their lungs. Even the good stuff from yesteryear would be considered ditch weed by the kids today.

Originally Posted by thebigspendur

I'd be looking into his friends and who he's hanging with. That will probably tell you if this is a harmless phase or a prelude into something more serious.

The fact you had a drug problem could mean there is a genetic factor too.

Sound advice. whom he hang out with is a very important factor in all this. If they are a couple of fellow students trying out pot, that's one thing. If he hangs out with small time criminals with a habitual pot use, that's much worse, and changes how you can deal with it.

When I was 19, I drank quite a bit, especially on Friday and Saturday nights. At the time, usually whenever I ended up in bed, the room started spinning like mad. I kinda had to time my drop to make sure I hit the bed when it swung by At my peak alcohol consumption, I drank about 15 Belgian beers per night. Then again, drinking beer is more or less expected from youths in Belgium. After a couple of years I seriously decreased my consumption when I started working.

Also, if you got into trouble, it might be a good idea to tell your son about it.

Originally Posted by edhewitt

i dont know if you will stop him, just make sure he is open with you, its better you know what he is doing. I would tell him about your experiences and explain why he shouldn't get into harder drugs.

Agree with Ed here. He'll stop when he chooses to not when you want him too.

Of the few smack users I knew in my 20's, 2 died & another 2 got 10 years for armed robbery.
I think most of the dope smokers I knew ended up married with kids living 'normal' lives. I stayed single so remained far form normal.

I would say you are better off being open. I think half the reason it seems so scary is because society has mad it scary. I have smoked my fair share and I have friends that still do. Of them, none of them use any hard narcotics. Many dont even drink. Not a big deal in my opinion.