Thread: my son is smoking pot

im inpartal on pot, but i started doing hardcer drugs real soon i was a heroine junkkie. how do i stop my own son?????

I'm sorry to hear about your son adm. :-( There are many factors that can affect treatment of your son so I would recommend getting in touch with a professional in your area that is trained to help in chemical abuse. AA/NA inter groups are also excellent resources and can help guide you. Your son is very lucky to have a dad that cares so much. Best of luck.

i dont know if you will stop him, just make sure he is open with you, its better you know what he is doing. I would tell him about your experiences and explain why he shouldn't get into harder drugs.

It could be a phase man, most teenagers, especially nowadays like getting high, eating doritos and watching tv. I know I did but I gave it up at the age of 19 to do better things because for me it made me lazy and I wasn't doing anything with my life. At a certain point I think people either grow out of it, or they're smoking doobies for life. The problem with pot is that it's a gateway drug. I was trying other drugs after I started smoking pot but thank God I didn't get hooked on anything.

I would just sit him down and let him know you care about him and love him. On the other hand you could go out and find some street junkies and drive by them with him explaining to him that is what the drugs lead to and ask him if he wants to live his life with a sign that says "Hungry Hungry Hobo" with a bottle of listerine. In any case I think you'll know the right thing to do, after all he is your boy.

Well for me it depends on how old your son is and how much pot he is smoking. On the west coast there is a very high tolerance for people and left handed cigarettes. I too have smoked more than my fair share. The issue in my mind is not the pot, I would have the same concerns about drinking. To me it is all about responsible consumption. My kids are all adults now, but when they were young and in their early teens and probably preteens I would talk to them about responsible consumption and what that means. At this point some of the kids have the odd wobbly pop and some choose not to participate, one of them smokes on occasion but the others do not, but everyone experimented. So to me, and I choose to not consume due to my inability to consume responsibly, it is fairly complex, however I do believe open, and honest communication with our children from a very young age is important. It helps a lot when these issues come up.

Yes keep the lines of communication open and honest. You can tell a kid not to spit in the fan but you know they have to see for themselves.
He has to be the one to control or stop it. You can only guide him through the process.

I'd be looking into his friends and who he's hanging with. That will probably tell you if this is a harmless phase or a prelude into something more serious.

The fact you had a drug problem could mean there is a genetic factor too.

Originally Posted by edhewitt

i dont know if you will stop him, just make sure he is open with you, its better you know what he is doing. I would tell him about your experiences and explain why he shouldn't get into harder drugs.

Agree with Ed here. He'll stop when he chooses to not when you want him too.

Of the few smack users I knew in my 20's, 2 died & another 2 got 10 years for armed robbery.
I think most of the dope smokers I knew ended up married with kids living 'normal' lives. I stayed single so remained far form normal.

I would say you are better off being open. I think half the reason it seems so scary is because society has mad it scary. I have smoked my fair share and I have friends that still do. Of them, none of them use any hard narcotics. Many dont even drink. Not a big deal in my opinion.

Open two-way communication pays off much better in the long run. We have to learn to talk to our kids without turning them off, and they have to learn how to have an adult conversation at some point. If we are their teachers, better us because we love them and care about them, instead of their peers or questionable companions who may have a different agenda.