Quote Originally Posted by JMS View Post
Make sure she is in the mood to talk though or it could end in disaster.
+1 on this.

Whenever there is a real issue I want to talk about (as in, me and my wife disagree) I have to wait for the right time to bring it up so that we can discuss it in a non volatile mood.

Trying to discuss things at the wrong time will lead to a disaster. You have to learn to read body language and understand it. I wish it was different, but there is nothing I can do about it.
Wait for the right moment and then talk until you both know where you're at.

Also, my wife really doesn't like surprises. I have learned not to try and surprise her with things out of the blue because she really doesn't like it.
When we decided to marry we talked about it in advance.
I only formally proposed the day before our wedding.

the thing with jumping this on her is that you've had months to think about it, and she has to come up with the answer on the spot.

I hope everything turns out ok.