Quote Originally Posted by jnich67 View Post
I don't know that letting go means getting rid of them exactly (IMHO) - integrating them or processing them so one does not deal with them in a maladaptive, unconscious or reactive way would be the goal. If you use them for positive motivation - and are aware of it, that is one way of integration I suppose.

Jordan
well, the way i see it, you've got two choices:
you can let the negative feelings just fester inside you, ruining your day and maybe eventually your health,
OR you can put 'em to work and use your anger or whatever to accomplish things to improve your life.

example:
let's say one of my coworkers does something slimy and backstabs me. ****es me right off. i can:
a. sit around moping and fuming, and not do anything about it. then i will go home and be in an awful mood and my wife will have to put up with my irate behavior.
b. use my anger to one up/ humiliate him at the next meeting or whatever by using my focused rage to work faster and get more done than him. the satisfaction of dazzling the boss with my fine oneupsmanship will see me going home in a victorious mood, and my wife will get to deal with happy jockeys and not cranky jockeys.
or, i suppose,
c. do some hippy meditation thing (no offense, anyone) which does nothing to resolve the situation with the antagonist, just makes me less cranky. when i go home that evening, my wife won't find me cranky, but she won't respect me, either.

my point is, rather than just wasting all your anger or whatever, you should use it (or use it up) to improve the quality of your life in a constructive way. even if it's just beating a punching bag, it's still a good workout and helps your feel better physically and emotionally. i see that transcendental stuff as an awful waste of something potentially useful.