Quote Originally Posted by WireBeard View Post
Manners are like charity - if you are doing so you can be seen doing it - it has no meaning........
....Again, like Charity - only you know why you do it....
I'm not taking issue with Wirebeard.
I'm actually agreeing with him


BUT I would argue that charity is done for selfish reasons


people contribute, quite simply, to make themselves feel good
most times they have not thought it out to that point, but it is a fact
Freud called it the need for greatness
or more simply a need to feel important

it has been played over and over in this thread and I think a larger portion of humility would do some of these posters well
they seem awful proud of themselves

" I'm a nice guy because ......."

opening doors no more makes you a nice guy than going to church ensures a place in heaven
the left hand must not know what the right is doing