Thread: i am no longer ungainfully employed as a nanny.

gentlemen and ladies of srp.

not really sure why i'm posting this.. i just needed to say something.. or i feel i may self destruct..

i had been working as a nanny of 5 for the last 2 years.. slowly over the course of those 2 years i stopped receiving pay and was basically just waiting for the parents to get paid so they could pay me.. (they work in the film industry)

then i somehow ended up having to be a full time single parent to the children while their parents we're always working.. so much to the point that i ended up living with the children and their grandmother while their mom stayed at her friend's house.. often going weeks on end without seeing their mom.

i'm not sure how this ended up happening.. but eventually the children's mother began to treat me like i was one of her children.. she spoke down to me and basically treated me with an enormous amount of disrespect.. i just became her person to release anger on..

this morning was the final straw.. after being verbally assaulted by the kid's mom.. i told her i was leaving.. i packed up everything i could and left..i hopped on the closest bus and started making phone calls to whoever i could to figure out what to do.. i had enough money to pay a weeks rent at a hostel.. and i now have 10 bucks to my name.. i plan on selling some dvds tomorrow to help me get through the rest of the week.. and i'm answered just about every ad on craigslist under the gigs section.. everything from moving help to data entry.. i'm sure i'll be fine.. and i feel a bit of relief now..

but i have this crazy feeling i just can't shake.. leaving the children was so hard.. i wasn't even able to say goodbye.. i just looked towards them and started crying uncontrollably. i ended up just walking out the door without saying a word to them.. i was just choking on my tears. advice anyone?

also.. does anyone in or around los angeles have any job leads for me?

Man... ... I wish I had words for you, or work for that matter, but I have neither. For what it's worth in the meanwhile, I wish you all the best and I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Dave

thank you very much.. i know i made the right move.. but i just can't shake this feeling.. i'm sure things will get better with time.. as for now.. i just keep breaking down and crying every few minutes.. i really do love those children and it's tearing me apart.. i just don't know how to feel being away from them.

I truly feel sorry for the children, now they seem to have no parent whatsoever. If the parents had been real you would have never have been this close. You have borne more than your share of their responsibility. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do for the kids, please do your best to look after yourself. God bless!

thank you.. i do feel as though i've abandoned them.. but i know that i can't take care of them if i'm not fully well.. and having to live as i've been isn't something i can do anymore.. the oldest child is turning 13 next month and i feel as if she'll be taking over parental duties.

this is so sad and i don't think there is anything i can do.

I am sorry you have been put in a situation where the only choice to make was the one you made. I have no words of wisdom for you, but I do respect the choice you made. You have to do what you feel is right, and hopefully the children that you have raised and cared for will understand in time that this is for the best.

Originally Posted by vthomlinson

gentlemen and ladies of srp.

not really sure why i'm posting this.. i just needed to say something.. or i feel i may self destruct..

i had been working as a nanny of 5 for the last 2 years.. slowly over the course of those 2 years i stopped receiving pay and was basically just waiting for the parents to get paid so they could pay me.. (they work in the film industry)

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Argh... 5 of the last 2 years you got paid.
Send an honest bill ASAP. Consider sending a copy to the local
county or city attorney with a letter. They will just file
it but that is the important part.

You may not get anything but you need to get in line and on record.
Houses get sold, books get bought, stories get told who knows.

I have worked for flakes and not been paid yet they
seem to pay themselves.

See if the local Art of Shaving needs a salesman...

Good luck,

Victor....Those of us who have gone thru a divorce know
exactly how you're feeling. It's a heartbreaker when one
day you just have to pack your gear and go.

Try and keep in touch with the kids. They need to know
that its not about them. Give it a rest for a day or two,
and then call them. Tell them how you feel.

Hang in there, amigo.

Paul

I'm going to be unemployed as of this friday after almost 20 years, so I can relate. It is terrifying.
I tend to try to fix things and since I haven't fixed my own issues, I'm going to try to fix yours. I'm going to make a suggestion that may or may not be appreciated--get a lawyer. They owe you money. You loved the kids, but you were performing a service and they need to pay for it. Even though these weren't your kids, I know after all this time what kind of a bond you must have shared with them, but your feelings for them don't change that fact that this was your job and you are owed money for performing it.
I wish you the best, even though that doesn't help.

thank you guys.. it is true that i stopped being paid quite awhile ago.. and to be honest.. i don't think i'll ever see my money.. they simply don't have a history of paying their debts.. even if a judge were to award me my backpay.. who's going to make them pay? no one is going to go over there and threaten to break kneecaps.

but to be honest.. no amount of money can fix the loss i feel inside.. i know it's not true.. but i really feel like i've let these children down.