Thread: im not a regular poster on here but i wanted to share

I am glad you chose to share your pain with us all I hope in some small way it lightens your heart.

peace be with you and your family may your loss bring you all closer together.

Ian, Thank you for the courage to share this with strangers. The loss and the pain must be immesurable. God bless you! Still your ability to bring to fore the sweet memory of your son as a little boy brings rays of happiness to molify this terrible choice that he made for himself and for your family. The hard work for you now is to be there for the rest of your family and to help them realize that they have no responsibility for the actions taken by your son.

Ian,

I am so sorry for your loss. It is a pain nobody else can really understand. No parent should ever live to see their child to pass away.
Remember all the good days you had together and may it bring strength to you and your family. May the good memories stay and never be forgotten.

Writing seems so difficult, when being there in person is what would seem right.

I hope you and your family are surrounded by people who love you and loved your son. I can't imagine that kind of pain, having remained childless. Just the thought is too much. I have lost friends that way. It brings my awareness of my own mortality to the foreground. Paul's wishes for peace that surpasses understanding says it much better than I can.


It's not the time for recommended reading, but as the days go by, should you wish some food for thought on the topic, C.S. Lewis' 'A Grief Observed' (much more profound than the movie), or Joe Bailey's 'A View from a Hearse' would give some perspective for carrying on. Bailey buried his 5 sons on 5 separate occasions. You'd be more than welcome to my copies.

Hello, Ian:

I cannot imagine the profound pain you now suffer in this tragic loss, for it is far beyond my reach. What I do know, however, is that I share that part of your pain I am able to grasp.

Regards,

Obie

It is said, as long as we keep those who pass on in our memory, in a way they are still with us. The important thing is don't eat yourself up by looking for blame. I wish you the best.

It's very difficult to know what to say, especially as a stranger, other than to offer sincere condolences to you and your family.

I understand how people may feel towards offering condolences to a stranger but we are all friends who have never met. We share to joys and the lows with our online community and understand each others pain too.
Tyler's funeral is tomorrow in the afternoon.
I sometimes feel guilty at not constantly crying but im so happy that my little boy, or should i say young man, was in my life for as long as he was such a lovely lad everybody he met liked him from the start the absolute life and soul of any event he will be missed by so many but he lived his life to the fullest and ended it on his terms and no one else's.

ian

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Words just can't do what is necessary to stop the hurt and replace what was lost. Please don't make it worse by beating up on yourself. He will always be with you on another plane.

Peace be with you.

All I can do is second Obie's words:
"I cannot imagine the profound pain you now suffer in this tragic loss,..."

Do seek local friends and counseling. Professional counseling
be it a priest, minister, PhD, M.D. can help you and those around you.
Nothing will make it "better" but friends and counseling can help.