I have not read all the posts, etc., but I can tell you what an old pediatrician told my mother when she complained to him about what I ate and how little, He look at her and said, "He doesn't look hungry or underfed to me, let him eat what he wants. At least he's eating."

If the kids, belly aching then tough, you cant be that hungry if your willing to turn away food. I hated 4 hour old pbj sandwiches, but I sure didn't go crying to the lunch lady.

Don't worry the do gooders are going to slowly work it to a point where they'll tell you how to conduct every part of your life, well let them crawl back into their little worm holes and mind their own business. There's a reason they get into these job's. The world can be a harsh cruel place and the younger kids better start getting prepared for it instead of being pampered.