Thread: help my lady is mad at me

well im in the dog house. i had a really crappy day yesterday at work and tried to take it like a champ and just try and suck it up. i got home and got a call from my lady, (were getting ready to go backpacking this weekend) i told her id help her pack since shes never gone before and doesnt know what to expect but she insisted yesterday on taking this really really heavy sleeping bag over the backpacking sleeping bag that our friend was going to let us borrow for her and i got a little edgey and snapped at her when she refused to listen. well, she hung up on me and since then she emailed me this morning saying sorry for the lack of communication but shes taking the sleeping bag. so i emailed her back and appologized this morning but she still ignoring me, i even tried calling and she wouldnt pick up. i explained there is no excuse for my snapping at her but that i was just worried about her back is all since the last time i went with someone they herniated a disk.
women are impossible when they are ticked off. i dont know what to do. anyone have any ideas here? im at a total loss and scratching my head...
thanks
cody

txt her that your pregnant and you think the baby is hers.

there is no right way to get a woman un-mad at you. I find that spa gift certificates, dinner, flowers and jewelry all lubricate the situation much better than the sound of your voice. The hardest thing will be trying not to say I told you so durring the trip. Rest assured if you do that, you will not have a woman to worry about anymore!!! lol

good luck!

thanks man. id try calling again but honestly im not scared of many things... not mountain lions, sharks or yettis. but i am scared of a ticked off woman. shes not paralized hahahaahhahahahahahha

Find whatever she likes and buy the most expensive one you can afford.

Sell the backpacking gear. Buy a razor.

It depends. If you didn't insult her (which is a big nono) and you already apologised, I wouldn't do anything.
If she loves you, she should be able to accept your apology once you explained yourself.
Part of love and life and being a grown up is being able to put up with each other on a bad day.

If you have to bribe her into being nice again, something is wrong, and you have to consider whether that is a trend or not.
If it is, ask yourself if you want to live with that.

Originally Posted by alb1981

txt her that your pregnant and you think the baby is hers.

If you get to take the trip, hide a lizard in her sleeping bag when she's not looking.

I like your reply Bruno, but every situation is different. I agree with the apology and the waiting for a response. No one wants to be pestered when they are pissed. Also, no one respects a door mat. You can apologize for snapping and maybe make a few light hearted comments when she calls back, other than that. Move on...

Find another one. There are lots of them. There are even ones that don't act like children.

Originally Posted by corduroylion

anyone have any ideas here?

Some options:

1. Call 911 and explain you're having a masculinity crisis
2. Tie her tennis shoes together and tell her you'll stop when she starts listening to you
3. Tell her you'll carry her heavy bags if she'll carry your heavy hones
4. Remind her that God gave her two ears and one mouth for a reason

Actually I have no advice since I don't know your woman, and women are unpredictable. But I can offer what I've told my wife (loosely paraphrased) in a similar situation, which had good success: "Take whatever you want as long as you're willing to carry it. I've backpacked before and I can tell you I am not planning on carrying something that will weigh me down, and I think you'll be a lot happier with something lighter that isn't going to make you work so hard. But whatever you want to carry is up to you." For my wife, this makes her feel good that I am okay with letting her have her way, and looking out for her at the same time

PS if you say anything to suggest that she should sacrifice her own preferences so that you can have yours, you're probably not going to get very far and if you do you're a lucky guy