Thread: Resistance/Scrutiny/Interference from spouse?

My wife used to do Mary Kay - parties and sales and such. The first time she saw me show some of my buddies a bunch of my razors, strops, and stuff, she said "wow, Mary Kay for razors" hehe

Ideally I don't think spouses should have to hide stuff from each other, but practically, they both need to be in agreement on that for it to work

Is this a shaving thread or a marriage thread?

Originally Posted by hoglahoo

My wife used to do Mary Kay - parties and sales and such. The first time she saw me show some of my buddies a bunch of my razors, strops, and stuff, she said "wow, Mary Kay for razors" hehe

Ideally I don't think spouses should have to hide stuff from each other, but practically, they both need to be in agreement on that for it to work

Is this a shaving thread or a marriage thread?

I think if you've got something to hide from your spouse, then you need to fix that problem. I think the analogy to Mary Kay is great!

PS: you're in Woodward, right? Do the old-timers still refer to it as "Woodard"? I used to go there on business all the time, and always enjoyed being there.

It always gets me when a guy comes into the tattoo shop and has to ask his wife or girlfriend if he can get the tattoo he wants as if she was his mother.

Originally Posted by hoglahoo

My wife used to do Mary Kay - parties and sales and such. The first time she saw me show some of my buddies a bunch of my razors, strops, and stuff, she said "wow, Mary Kay for razors" hehe

How long till you get a pink razor, as a reward for your numerous razor sells?

Charlie

Originally Posted by spazola

How long till you get a pink razor, as a reward for your numerous razor sells?

Charlie

As soon as I figure out how to get rid of Steve, the guy down the street who now lives in a house built of pink coticule for beating me out ten years in a row

I think the problem is many guys have a relationship where they are all too glad to have the wife basically act like his mommy and tell him what he can and can't do. Once that happens the guy is reduced to just a drone. Sorry if that seems harsh and I'm not trying to disrespect anyone out there but that's how I see it.

I've been married 33 years to the same gal and both my wife and I have our own discretionary funds and we can do whatever with it. With everything else its a 50-50 relationship.

As pointed out above, if the financial aspect of it should be observed. My other half does the finances, she is an accountant. For me its more akin to asking if I can afford it.

If it works for that individual couple, who are you to pass judgment on it? Granted you (and I) would never stand for such a relationship dynamic, but that doesn't make it any more or less valid to the percentage of couples that choose to partake in those relationships.

I doubt any of those guys need to be pitied. They're all adults, fully able to choose how their marriages work.

Originally Posted by Psicko

As pointed out above, if the financial aspect of it should be observed. My other half does the finances, she is an accountant. For me its more akin to asking if I can afford it.

Exactly the same for me. My wife handles the money, and she's darn good at it, so when I want to make a major purchase, I ask/tell her.

And so far, my wife has not ONCE said "No." A couple of times she has said, after a long, level look, "Are you sure?"

At which point I say "No, no, it can wait..."

Smooths the rails a bit, knowing when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em.

Originally Posted by JimR

Exactly the same for me. My wife handles the money, and she's darn good at it, so when I want to make a major purchase, I ask/tell her.

And so far, my wife has not ONCE said "No." A couple of times she has said, after a long, level look, "Are you sure?"

At which point I say "No, no, it can wait..."

Smooths the rails a bit, knowing when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em.

Sounds like a wise course of action. One thing I've learned, maybe had to re-learn a few times, is that when she says, "do you think we could ..." I should listen carefully, think it over, and pleasantly respond, with that magic phrase, "yes, I think that is a good idea." I can think of a number of times I have given the wrong answer.