Thread: Sometimes I get the feeling my father in-law doesn't like me

I just finished my shave and I want to vent. I'm getting the feeling that my father in-law doesn't really like me. Either that or he doesn't like people who shave with anything other than an electric razor, take more than three seconds to shave and have more than three hairs on their face.

Take tonight for example. (I should just make it clear that the only place I have to shave is in the kitchen) My father in-law decided to be a plumber and turn off the water supply, right in the middle of my shave. My wife says I shouldn't get angry at people so I just pushed on. I found some warm water in the kettle, just enough to wash my face between passes and I wiped the blade on a towel instead of rinsing under the tap.

But then my father in-law decides that the wrench he is using is not the right one, so he drops it on the ground, just near where I am shaving. I'm getting good at coping with distractions so this didn't make me cut my own throat. So then my father in-law starts banging on the wall, on the other side of where I'm shaving.

Then just as I had finished my shave my father in-law reached past me to the cabinet to find an old tooth brush, don't ask me why. At this point I was trying to resist the urge to lose my calm, I did after all have a razor in my hand. So trying to keep calm I finished my shave, no nicks miraculously, and rinsed my face with the remainder of the water from the kettle. When it came time to rinse out my brush I found a lot of cold water in the fridge.
So after all this I just had to vent.

Your restraint, in the above described situation, was admirable...i know, i would not have been able to keep from wringing papa-inlaws neck.
You are a gentleman, for sure.

Mac

Hahaha! Well done on keeping your cool Nathan. Sometimes living on top of each other can cause even a great relationship to become a little strained. Maybe he could've picked a better time though!
Who's house is it? Your's, their's, everyone's? It can affect how people behave around each other. Maybe a bowl of nice hot water & a towel, taken to the bedroom might be the way to go? You can take as long as you want that way.

Well don on the constraint. If it were me I would shave at different times of the day just to be unpredictable. Something with your name on it is obviously bothering him.

It's always great to keep your composure. But if he is bothering you, first ask yourself why it is bugging you. If you come to the conclusion that he is showing some passive aggressive behavior towards you, confront it. I have experience with my step mother who did things like that and I find that confronting the situation calmly and just asking for space while shaving could help.

It seems time to draw the line, imho.
Some people love to walk over other people. As long as they have the chance they'll do just that.
There are many times to be humble, but there are also times to make a stand. If a little respect for a man shaving is too much to ask...

Good luck,
Bart.

Turn the water back on so that when he goes to open a pipe he gets nailed with water. Just make sure it is not in a sensitive area of the house.

Revenge, is truly a dish best served cold.

Nathan.

Are you sure that your in-laws haven’t written a life insurance on you?

[I have a MBA from a Jesuit run university so I’m cynical…]

Hey nate,

It sounds just like you and your father in law have a bit of a thing to work out. It could just be a cross cultural snaffu. Anyway, I was a peace corps volunteer in southern thailand and have had more than my fair share of such; romantically and otherwise. PM if you wanna talk about it.

Good Luck

=)

I think annoying the son-in-law is part of the F-I-L job description. Cut the guy a little slack.

I would probably make some sort of joke about it by finding an ad for a cleaning service that specializes in cleaning up crime scenes and giving it to him. "You may need this." Then, when he has had time to try and figure out what in H you are talking about, say "I was thinking, If I cut my throat the Next time you make all that racket while I am shaving, you may need a professional to clean up all the blood after I bleed out all over Nadine's (Mother in law) bathroom carpet. She'll probably wish you had found a cleaner way to bump off the son-in-law."

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