Thread: How to fit in here?

Originally Posted by Utopian

There was foul language in that video. Shame on you Bruno!

I think it is a younger generation thing. They didn't grow up with the same taboos and the F word is just an interjection and/or for emphasis.

Originally Posted by JimmyHAD

I think it is a younger generation thing. They didn't grow up with the same taboos and the F word is just an interjection and/or for emphasis.

Whilst this is true Jimmy, I think most reasonably sensible people will know where it is appropriate, the language I use around my work colleagues is vastly different to that which I use around my daughter.

Originally Posted by Bruno

She gave me 'the look' and I quickly retreated out of the discussion and agreed to whatever she was arguing about. You have to know when to fold and live to fight another day

If I had your sensibility, I might be married. Lol

Originally Posted by JimmyHAD

I think it is a younger generation thing. They didn't grow up with the same taboos and the F word is just an interjection and/or for emphasis.

I'm the kind of guy that curses more than average. It is something that my father and I enabled each other growing up. Honestly, I'm surprised I haven't swore when complementing some of great work we see here.

What was this thread about. I forgot!

It's that doggone RNC thread. Like poison...

I'm willing to bet 2 dollars cold hard cash we lose another one before it's over.

Well...Let's all just chill.

Soldier! Bleep-out some of that, willya?

Originally Posted by sharptonn

Well...Let's all just chill.

Soldier! Bleep-out some of that, willya?

He knows the rules. He can just repost without the expletives now that his post is deleted.

Originally Posted by ReardenSteel

I'm willing to bet 2 dollars cold hard cash we lose another one before it's over.

We don't do valuations on this forum !

Originally Posted by Hirlau

We don't do valuations on this forum !

HAR! ...........................

Originally Posted by Hirlau

During my 25 years on the job I was called every profane word there is; some of the words I had to have people explain to me the meaning.
I had men threaten my life, to kill my family, my dog (didn't have one), burn my house down with my family in it. This never bothered me.

But one day a man called me something that has bothered me since. He stood up & uttered a challange to a couple of fellow officers who were going to take him into custody. I told them to back away & I would deal with the individual. I walked up to him, he looked at me, rolled his eyes and said to me, "Go sit your Winnie The Pooh a$$ down !" I stopped dead in my tracks & all my fellow officers started laughing.

The individual started laughing at me too. He gave up without a fight.

Lost my street cred that day.

I will be using that at work sometime in the next week.

Originally Posted by gugi

You know what, may be Str8Up has a valid point and I should have been much more forgiving towards a person with mental illness.
However, I have a pretty nice and comfortable middle class life without having to face difficult situations like this and I don't have the training or skills to properly deal with such individuals. So, I take the easy way out - do what I think is reasonable for a normal person, try to go a bit beyond leaning towards forgiveness and another chances and then I give up.

It would have been really helpful if people like Str8Up who have the passion to help such people can pitch in - when they see somebody with problems they can befriend them, offer support and guidance, help me understand in what way I could do better, and whatever else may be necessary. Perhaps then things could indeed go differently.

Strangely enough Str8Up chose a very different and rather counterproductive approach that frankly puzzles me. May be it is another case of being harsh on a person with a mental illness, may be it isn't, but either way those who want things handled differently have two options - jump in and help prevent these things from escalating to a ban, or get a different forum administrator who is more capable than me in dealing with the mentally ill.

Honestly buddy, I think you did what you had to do. The forum has rules and they're no secret. And the user in question was given multiple chances to straighten up. Maybe it would be worth consideration the idea to lift his ban just once more, and perhaps hash it out with him to see if there are areas of the forum that he can function and only allow him access to those? Just a thought, since it did seem like you guys have the ability to limit users to certain areas. Just an off the cuff suggestion since it seemed you weren't entirely happy with the outcome yourself.

Originally Posted by dinnermint

I'm the kind of guy that curses more than average. It is something that my father and I enabled each other growing up. Honestly, I'm surprised I haven't swore when complementing some of great work we see here.

Yea, bad habit I picked up at the shop. And being part of the younger generation that Jimmy references doesn't help. Strange the differences just a few generations can make eh? To my grandmother such language was strictly verboten. My mother may let a foul word slip here or there. Me? They're just another word in the dialect, and I am quite fluent in asterisk.

Honestly I'm surprised it hasn't gotten me in trouble here like it does just about everywhere else. Particularly with threads that get me worked up. I had to recuse myself from one thread because I'd broken the usual decorum already, and knew it was only going to get worse if I continued checking that thread out. Sometimes the best option is to simply take a deep breath, walk away, and let it go.

I'm not one to shy away from discussions of politics though. Honestly these things need to be discussed, and I don't think it right to fear broaching the topic. I think the largest reason that we have so much trouble talking about these things is simply because no one ever does. Thus we don't know how. Somehow we've lost sight of the fact that it's actually OK for people to have a different opinion on a topic than us. We've forgotten how to have civilized discourse, and agree to disagree should it become apparent that neither side will cede. And I think that's because it's in vogue to keep to shallow and light/airy topics of conversation that either everyone can agree on, or simply will not have a strong opinion of.

And now I'm just sort of rambling so...on to other things!