Thread: Inappropriate comments

That reminds me of the one time I was edited (that I know of). I posted a thread insinuating (or jokingly accusing) that someone from this forum was acting silly in the photo I found posted on the web (someone shaving on a flume ride). A full month after I posted it, the wording was edited because it was possible that someone could have taken offense to it. It did not bother me one bit....mainly because the person who edited it, PMed me notifying me that it was done and why.

I wear big boy pants, I can handle it In fact I appreciate it. I meant to be funny, not insulting.

This experience reinforced what I thought was true of this site. If and when I step over a line, someone will give me a nudge in the right direction. Seems reasonable to me! It will perhaps happen again...hopefully everyone will remain tolerant of my sense of humor.

Originally Posted by Birnando

The rules on this site, to me, is pretty clear to be honest.
Spelling it out even more would make for very boring reading, and it would be quite hard to cover all bases.
Well, that is my personal opinion on that anyway.



I think you are arguing anarchy here, and I feel pretty sure this site wouldn't be the better for it.
Having a set of rules, and a team that works to uphold them is far from censorship.
A mod on this site is a parttaker of the debates and discussions.
That gives us the opportunity to actually steer discussions away from going south in a hurry, and also be there to guide our users as to our praticing of the set rules.
This, imho, is what gives us all the opportunity to share this hobby, and discuss all other things, on this great site.
It is also what differentiates mods from censors.

In short; if I for a second felt my role here was that of a censor, and not a mod, then I would leave this place in a hurry.
The only way for me to leave even faster, would be if it turned in to your average hate/flame/circular argument site that the net is drowning in.



I think people can take quite a bit
But you argued that one should read only what one wants.
This is one of the areas where the differences in culture shows the most on an international forum such as this.
And as such, can be quite hard to moderate.

As you know, I'm from a different culture than the majority on here, and I often find myself wondering about the sensitivity of some posts we do get reported to the mods.
It is not hard to adapt to what the Admins and owners of this site wants though.



We discuss the borderline cases because we are not censors, we are members here, and we do make mistakes.
To ensure that not someone with a bad day makes bad calls, a consencus between the mods at hand adds to ensure that our decisions are in fact somewhat sane

I agree with all you've said and don't find the moderation on SRP to be an issue. I've never had anything I've written corrected (to my knowledge anyway) and don't plan to start. There certainly are times when a gentle "nudge" will be all that is required and there are times when a heavier hand will be required. I understand the difficulties in moderating a website.
I always take the position that censorship is bad. Any kind at all. I do this realizing that is most likely a necessity. I figure I balance those that I would call "book burners."
My entire philosophy in life is "reasonable." I always try to be reasonable and things seem to work well that way.

Originally Posted by unit

That reminds me of the one time I was edited (that I know of). I posted a thread insinuating (or jokingly accusing) that someone from this forum was acting silly in the photo I found posted on the web (someone shaving on a flume ride). A full month after I posted it, the wording was edited because it was possible that someone could have taken offense to it. It did not bother me one bit....mainly because the person who edited it, PMed me notifying me that it was done and why.

I wear big boy pants, I can handle it In fact I appreciate it. I meant to be funny, not insulting.

This experience reinforced what I thought was true of this site. If and when I step over a line, someone will give me a nudge in the right direction. Seems reasonable to me! It will perhaps happen again...hopefully everyone will remain tolerant of my sense of humor.

Reasonable and nudge are always good.


Besides, I like to hear the position of other folks from other cultures on certain things: Censorship and privacy rights being two.
Bazinga!!

A gentleman always thinks carefully before hitting the Submit button. A good rule of thumb regarding your posts is whether or not the subject is something you'd be happy to discuss openly with your Grandmother.

Originally Posted by johnmrson

A good rule of thumb regarding your posts is whether or not the subject is something you'd be happy to discuss openly with your Grandmother.

My Grandmother, before she died, often said things that would make a sailor blush.
She was no gentleman at all.

Originally Posted by HNSB

My Grandmother, before she died, often said things that would make a sailor blush.
She was no gentleman at all.

My grandmother was a lot like your grandmother, I think. She was tough as nails and said EXACTLY what she thought. There was absolutely zero filtration between her mind an the tip of her tongue.

Lord help the person that crossed her!

My sisters first words were some real gems thanks to my grandmother LOL.

Originally Posted by unit

My grandmother was a lot like your grandmother, I think. She was tough as nails and said EXACTLY what she thought. There was absolutely zero filtration between her mind an the tip of her tongue.

Lord help the person that crossed her!

My sisters first words were some real gems thanks to my grandmother LOL.

But would you talk to her in that same manor?

This is an interesting thread. I have been following it from the start and to be honest I feel it got a little away from the original idea of the post but still a very helpful post for those new to the site that wish to read it.

I really think a lot of what we are seeing is just do to a large increase of new and younger members. With a mix of tongue and check humor / inside jokes from older members.

With the younger members it is really rare for someone to actually teach them how to be a gentlemen so they are learning it on there own so there will be mistakes along the way.

With the older members as with any group inside jokes and a level of familiarity develop that leads to jokes the are a bit more risqué when looked at by an outsider. As a new member they don't know that these older members have known each other for many years now and think these jokes common place and feel that is where the level is.

None of this is fixable. I find how the mods act both in the public forum and behind the scene sets a good example and is where the majority of the members set their behavior. Those that don't soon find that this is not the place for them and find there own place to go.

Originally Posted by Castel33

But would you talk to her in that same manor?
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Here we go with the manors again. He'd probably talk to her in the manor, the street, down by the sea side...What is it with the large stately country homes all of a sudden???

I think the class system might be in operation here Carl...A bit of Rich vs Poor perhaps?!


Mick

Originally Posted by MickR

I think the class system might be in operation here Carl...A bit of Rich vs Poor perhaps?!


Mick

Yes. Actually, I think there's a lot in that statement.

Originally Posted by carlmaloschneider

Here we go with the manors again. He'd probably talk to her in the manor, the street, down by the sea side...What is it with the large stately country homes all of a sudden???

I apologize Carl I used the wrong word. My intention was to use the word manner.