Thread: Need Wife Advice, Please Help!

I would say if the photos are like the ones you posted here kind of provocative and sexy I can see why see doesn't want them up. How would you like it if she wanted to put up a similar photo of a male singer in a similar kind of pose?

Like everyone else has said you have to live with her and she's your wife so you have to establish the common ground and where it pays to make a stand and where it time to flee and I think if you make a stand on this one you might wind up like Custer.

Originally Posted by JLStorm

Ok so I have several autographs from my favorite artists most I have gotten in person. I am going to hang them up, but one of them that I am actually hoping to receive via mail from my favorite female artist (Julie Roberts, the country singer, not the actress).

At any rate my wife will let me hang up anything I want BUT a photo of her, my wife thinks I am obsessed with her...and,well I am...but thats besides the point. It would be part of a collection of autographs.

My wife says if I hang it up she will rip it right down...I told her I would never forgive her, I am tempted to just hang it and see if she has the balls to actually do it, knowing how mad I would get.

I even offered to hang them in my office out of site...that didnt work either.


Any preemptive advice or words of wisdom??

I guess you're recently married, because it sounds like the two of you have not quite worked out your basic boundaries. This is an important time, because you're learning how to live with each other. This is not one of the biggest issues you'll have in your life, but you can't deal with it by brinksmanship, which is what the two of you are doing.

I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I would sit down to a good heart-to-heart. Both of you need to think about how important this is to you and how important it is to the other and reach a solution TOGETHER.

Josh,

Many women have serious doubts about their looks. Even famous models have confessed to being unhappy with their bodies.
If you're gonna hang pictures of a gorgeous woman in the house you will not boost your wife's self confidence. She will be unhappy about it no matter how often you tell her you think she is beautiful. Even if she will eventually allow you to hang the pics in the house she will always be unhappy about it and suspect you have a serious infatuation for Julia Roberts.

My advice would be: drop the whole thing and concentrate on things that will improve your relationship. Keep the pics in a drawer, take an occasional quick look at them when you're alone with them and dream for a while.

IMHO such pictures are more suitable for garages, students' dorms and photographers' studios. Grow up Josh! You're a married man now, don't push your luck!

I keep hearing here that you should let her have this one. I hope that's not what you thought I said because it misses the point.

This is between you and your wife, and when it's over neither of you should feel like you've capitulated, but that you've worked it out together. I just celebrated my 40th anniversary, but I can still remember an early time when we created these kinds of roadblocks. It's a step along the path of understanding. Capitulation is no better than ignoring her and doing what you want.

There may be some issues you will never work out, but this shouldn't be one of them. A ndthe practice you get with this one will serve you well for the tough ones.

Joe Lerch is a wise man.

Josh,
Why not put your collection of autographs in an album. That would make your wife happy. If she is happy then you will be too.

Rick

JL,

Im no expert on relationships, but I do know that women have a different rational than men. Posting a photo of a women she believes you are obsessed with is clashing with the female version of "EGO" here. When they said to "Choose your battles" I believe they were refering to this one =P

On another note, the idea of photo's of your wife is actually a really really good idea. Stash a little cash on the side without the wiffy knowing, and hire a photographer to set up a little shoot. Have some sexy photo's taken and flaunt them around the house.

Originally Posted by Billy

JL,

Im no expert on relationships, but I do know that women have a different rational than men. Posting a photo of a women she believes you are obsessed with is clashing with the female version of "EGO" here. When they said to "Choose your battles" I believe they were refering to this one =P

On another note, the idea of photo's of your wife is actually a really really good idea. Stash a little cash on the side without the wiffy knowing, and hire a photographer to set up a little shoot. Have some sexy photo's taken and flaunt them around the house.

Actually photographers already pay her to do that...thats where all those photos came from..they are all professional.


I decided not to fight about it...I bought another gun (she doesnt know about this one) instead.... oh the benefits of a large gun safe that only I know the conversation too... On the flip side Im gonna give her a thousand dollar visa gift card on top of presents for the holidays so she can get herself something nice...that keeps me from feeling guilty about the gun lol...she doesnt wear jewelry or I would get her a pair of earings or something nice....and she will get mad if I buy her something nice...so this way she can spend it however she wishes

Originally Posted by JLStorm

.... oh the benefits of a large gun safe that only I know the conversation to...

I can understand your right to carry guns, shoot guns and show off guns, but I think that "Gun Crazy" may be the correct term for this situation. I mean, who talks to their "large" gun safe? Full Metal Jacket anyone?

"Paging Dr. Freud, Dr. Freud to SRP, please."

Originally Posted by shavethebadger

I can understand your right to carry guns, shoot guns and show off guns, but I think that "Gun Crazy" may be the correct term for this situation. I mean, who talks to their "large" gun safe? Full Metal Jacket anyone?

"Paging Dr. Freud, Dr. Freud to SRP, please."

LMAO

I meant combination hahaha