Thread: Has Your Wife or Significant Other Done This Yet?

When I left the house on Tuesday I left our hall closet nicely adorned with my shaving things in a specific order such as clippercide, shaving soaps, mugs, razor cases, barber towels, etc, very organized and accessible, I came home on Thursday to find all my shaving stuff (other than my razors which I keep in a valet chest) in a shoe box in the closet. This shoe box is now "my designated shaving box" Apparently there wasnt enough room for the towels in the closet, so she arranged everything in shoe boxes..even her stuff, but she gets like 4 shoe boxes....

Any words of wisdom on how I fight this battle????

My shaving stuff should be displayed not stuffed in a damn box...I told her when we get a house I want my own bathroom with a lock and a key!!!

JL,

Show her that you are the man! Display all of your stuff on the living room coffee table. THEN, tell her that you can display it in the living room, or in the bathroom...her decision!

RT

Originally Posted by rtaylor61

JL,

Show her that you are the man! Display all of your stuff on the living room coffee table. THEN, tell her that you can display it in the living room, or in the bathroom...her decision!

RT

Think she will understand me buying all new stuff when mine ends up in the trash?

It all depends upon who wears the pants in the household.

RT

Originally Posted by rtaylor61

It all depends upon who wears the pants in the household.

RT

It depends on the moment...like at this moment she is pretty pissed off that I just bought a new razor even though I explained it really is coming out of per diem I never used from work...she doesnt really understand that concept though....but instead of yelling she just went to bed...I cant tell if thats getting better or getting worse...

However when I offered to sell another razor to help cancel out the cost of the new razor to make her happy she told me not to worry about her and not to sell any of my razors, "just to please not buy any more razors". I agreed not to buy anymore until october.

She still isnt happy with me but she is lying and tells me its fine and too come to bed....somehow I have this feeling its not going to be fine.....

oh she did mention I could spread out my stuff in the closet but it has to go in shoe boxes...still seems dumb to me...stupid shoe boxes....

Of course this was all before she found out I bought another razor...I might have to renegotiate in the morning....

Its a really nice razor though! (of course she doesnt understand any of this...its like trying to explain how to set the time on a vcr)

don't take this the wrong way; i'm honestly not trying to antagonize you or anyone else, and this is a serious question (not rhetorical): how can you stand being told what to do? maybe i'm failing to see how the comfort of having a female around could get so important that you're willing to give up the basic freedom to do whatever the hell you want to with your stuff. i mean, in all fairness, it's probably not a huge issue where you can or can't keep your razors, but what about having to promise not to buy anymore? if you earn your money, why can't you do with it as you please?

again, not rhetorical questions. i guess i'm hoping someone will post some of the great stuff that must happen when you get married that makes this kind of thing easy to take.

Originally Posted by JLStorm

Any words of wisdom on how I fight this battle????

A Woman's whim may change like the seasons.
A Man's strategy to deal with such changes should be equally flexible.

Other than that, I'm afraid you're on your own.
A wonderful woman is like a priceless piece of art, unique and distinct.
Only the man who knows her best has the capacity to display her finest qualities and knows in what light her particular features shine.

My thoughts are with you.

X

JL...

It's clear that RT is having fun just messin' with you, but if you follow 138's advice you are a dead man and your right hand and a sock will be your new best friend. You're not surprised he's by himself, are you?

Go ahead and wear the pants... just make sure she gets to tell you which ones to put on... As you get older, you can trick them into thinking they told you which pair to put on. Put your toys away and live with it. Put things in perspective. Your issue isn't worth rolling on the aisle floor kicking and pounding the tiles.

Originally Posted by cyrano138

don't take this the wrong way; i'm honestly not trying to antagonize you or anyone else, and this is a serious question (not rhetorical): how can you stand being told what to do? maybe i'm failing to see how the comfort of having a female around could get so important that you're willing to give up the basic freedom to do whatever the hell you want to with your stuff. i mean, in all fairness, it's probably not a huge issue where you can or can't keep your razors, but what about having to promise not to buy anymore? if you earn your money, why can't you do with it as you please?

again, not rhetorical questions. i guess i'm hoping someone will post some of the great stuff that must happen when you get married that makes this kind of thing easy to take.

Well its like this,

She hardly ever spends money on anything, I on the other hand spend lots of money on various things. When she gets pissed off about me buying razors she goes into a rant that basically goes like this "buy as many razors as you want, but double the price of everything, because for every razor you buy Im going to spend just as much on stuff I want"(although she has never actually done this yet)

I honestly dont have a huge issue with her doing that (I do earn more money than she does, but Im willing to overlook this). We just have different ways of paying bills and saving and whatnot. We are saving for a house and getting out of debt after the wedding and she gets pissed off knowing I am shopping while we are in debt, which I completely understand. However, I refuse to use every cent I have to pay off debt or bills or put into savings, I need to have fun.

It all comes down to justification I guess, I can justify just about any purchase by telling myself ok well I wont go shooting this week and that saves X amount of money, and I wont buy those shoes I wanted and that saves Y amount of money...this way the razor is sort of already budgetted out. In her mind its all money spent on things we dont need.

She never tells me I cant spend money she just tells me she is going to start spending more, but considering how viciously she is paying off our debts I dont know where that more is going to come from. So she just makes me feel guilty or gets pissed off and says "thats fine we will just be in debt the rest of our life", or "we will never get a house", etc..etc.. What she doesnt understand that if I wasnt spending it on razors I would be spending it on something else...just a difference of opinion that requires compromise I guess. I have always been a guy with toys, I used to buy guns which make most razors look cheap, but since we have met I have curbed that habit.

Anyway, my compromise to her, as soon as I told her about my new razor was that I wont by anymore razors until october, and I offered that to her so that she would not go out on a shopping spree or be too upset about things. After all lately when I buy a razor its in the $150 - $200 range so they are not cheap and yet when she goes clothes shopping she buys shoes for $10.00 and shirts for $5.00 and still looks like she is in designer outfits.

Partially she is right...since I can justify anything, its probably a good thing she is like this...in the last week I have spend $350 on two razors, and I if I sell anymore of my razors (which I had done in the past to offset some of the costs, but now I am down to 5 shave ready very good quality razors) I will be selling razors I just refuse to let go of, so its all comming out of our (we have a joint account) checkbook.

At any rate we butt heads a lot over this sort of thing, I look at it as: she has to pay for food all week long while Im away with work paying for my meals...she has to pay for gas when she drives to work, I dont, etc...and I get my razors, but the bottom line is I probably do overspend, and she gets pissed off...I think we are both right about it and both wrong...its all about timing I guess and when I see something I get it whether the timing is good or not, I have been told this is called being obsessed lol, but that is obvious

Hopefully that answers your question....