Thread: i am no longer ungainfully employed as a nanny.

Originally Posted by vthomlinson

thank you guys.. it is true that i stopped being paid quite awhile ago.. and to be honest.. i don't think i'll ever see my money.. they simply don't have a history of paying their debts.. even if a judge were to award me my backpay.. who's going to make them pay? no one is going to go over there and threaten to break kneecaps.

but to be honest.. no amount of money can fix the loss i feel inside.. i know it's not true.. but i really feel like i've let these children down.

I am aware that no amount of money will fix your loss but they do owe you. You look into putting a lien on their house or business so that when they go to sell you will see that money.


Chin up. things do have a way of working themselves out and those children will remember the ones who truly cared for them.

thank you.. i will definitely look into my options.. their mom has so far called several times and keeps telling me that "to relax and take it easy and we'll talk about things tomorrow".. she has yet to say anything resembling an apology..

an a positive note.. i'll be loading a new blade in my artist club for tomorrow morning's shave.

Ah sucks that in the end it all came down to this.

If I were in your area I'd offer you a bed to crash on till you got on your feet.

Lol if you want a job here in Toronto you can have mine!

Originally Posted by vthomlinson

thank you guys.. it is true that i stopped being paid quite awhile ago.. and to be honest.. i don't think i'll ever see my money.. they simply don't have a history of paying their debts.. even if a judge were to award me my backpay.. who's going to make them pay? no one is going to go over there and threaten to break kneecaps.

but to be honest.. no amount of money can fix the loss i feel inside.. i know it's not true.. but i really feel like i've let these children down.

There are 2 issues here.
First of all: file a complaint and gather up your paperwork. If a judge awards you your pay, then they have no choice but to do so. They can fight it for a while, but in the end it will be contempt of court if they don't.

Second issue: the kids. This is going to hurt but they are not your kids. I understand fully well that it hurts you not to see them. You love them and they love you. But don't ever try to contact them without explicit written permission from their parents, or you will get into so much trouble. Stalking, kidnapping, ... there is no saying what they will try to pin on you. But if they act in bad faith, they'll do it just to make you go away. Watch out or they will sucker punch you.

Sorry to hear about the dramas but I agree with Utopian, get legal advice. At least that way you'll no what your options are.

Originally Posted by Bruno

There are 2 issues here.
First of all: file a complaint and gather up your paperwork. If a judge awards you your pay, then they have no choice but to do so. They can fight it for a while, but in the end it will be contempt of court if they don't.

Second issue: the kids. This is going to hurt but they are not your kids. I understand fully well that it hurts you not to see them. You love them and they love you. But don't ever try to contact them without explicit written permission from their parents, or you will get into so much trouble. Stalking, kidnapping, ... there is no saying what they will try to pin on you. But if they act in bad faith, they'll do it just to make you go away. Watch out or they will sucker punch you.

Bruno, with all due respect you need to quit applying your idea of right and wrong to American affairs as it usually doesnt happen the way you project it to happen. As to the second part I agree 100%

wow.. i really wasn't thinking like that.. i really have no plans of trying to contact the kids without their parents knowledge or consent.. their mom has called several times and i told her i wasn't able to say goodbye to them. she said it wasn't necessary and that i could see them whenever i wanted.. but i don't think i'll be able to see them for awhile.. i think it's best if i just stay away and focus on salvaging my life.

Originally Posted by JMS

Bruno, with all due respect you need to quit applying your idea of right and wrong to American affairs as it usually doesnt happen the way you project it to happen. As to the second part I agree 100%

Enlighten me
If a court orders me to pay n$ to someone, and I don't pay, then I get in trouble. It may take a while because the wheels of justice turn slowly, but they will grind me down.

There are several ways it can happen, but the ... (don't know how to translate this word. Something like a cross between a repo man and a bailiff) will simply show up at your doorstep and seize property for the purpose of auctioning it off, they will seize your bank assets, and do various other mean things.

How is the US way of doing things different? I mean sure the formal procedures will be different, but in the end, the courts have ways to make you pay, no?

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation Victor, it must be very hard to leave children who have become like your own.

I really wish there was something I could do or offer in support. I can only say that it takes a lot of courage to make a decision like this and I know its one you wont have taken lightly.

Please dont feel that you have let the children down, thats absolutely not the case. Its one thing to be a paid nanny and entirely another to be an unpaid nanny who's on the receiving end of verbal abuse.

I agree with Ron that you should get a lawyer and chase for what you are owed. Its not acceptable to do work on the understanding you will be paid and then not receive the money.

All the best, God bless and good luck for this next chapter!

Victor,

This must be a very difficult situation for you. However, it sounds like you are a resourceful and motivated person, which leads me to the conclusion that although currently things are less than stellar, you will find an equilibrium again.

I applaud you for your bold move in protecting yourself, and that is the most important thing for you and those children. They may also be hurt from your departure, and may be so for some time. Yet, as a teacher, I can attest to the fact that all people, young and old, can read between the lines. While you were staying at the house and continuing to be disrespected, the kids may have (I'm not sure because I wasn't there) been picking up on the message that it's ok to treat people like that. Having left, the message is now clear (in due time for them) that it is not ok to do so. They may one day look on you, and see from their memories your strength of character and will power.

It takes an incredible person to stand in the face of ill treatment and say "I'm not going to take this."

Congratulations to you, and on extracting yourself from a belittling scenario.

Nathan